Sat, Feb 22, 2014
The stoic patience of the very best parents in the world comes
the end, when the dear child continually naughty, and neither end nor
this edge is not visible. Child psychologists distinguish between age
one and a half and three years as the most “explosive” and calm
tired moms and dads that older children who don’t have
diseases of the nervous system, the frequency of hysteria falls sharply. Means
Is that the whims just need to be attributed to the age psychophysical
features and wait patiently when they run out? Not at all!
Most often, the child rolls tantrums to certain family members.
or in certain situations. If you analyze his actions and
respond in a certain way, you can increase the proportion of such
desired silence in family relationships.
First, you need to understand what is in the mind of your child.
Small children under 3 years old are not aware of their emotional state and
can not identify the cause of its occurrence. Their emotional
the palette is distinguished by the polarity “I love – I don’t love” without any
complex tones. For this reason, they easily switch their
attention from one subject to another, and in a situation where
a tantrum broke out, they can be distracted by suggesting some other
object for the game.
Very often a tantrum is a reason to attract your attention and
manipulation to keep him as long as possible. If a child
before starting to act up patiently waiting for you
free yourself, then, perhaps, the roots of his protest grow from your
eternal employment?
But overly childlike parents have similar
problems with naughty children. How to cope with the situation if
are you doing everything for the child, but is it always enough for him?
- Do not try to solve the problem during a tantrum. On the contrary
Try to ignore the provocation – get out of the room,
if the “concert” happened at home, or silently, without entering into a discussion,
Take the child out of the crowded place, depriving him of the audience Do not react
on the tips of the well-wisher
- Be adamant in your position if the child’s requirements
awkward or harmful to him. Do not try to cajole the baby
a gift, no matter how he shouted and cried. Keep it in the field
view, but keep your business up.
- After the peak of the tantrum has passed, explain firmly and directly
to his child, why his demands cannot be fulfilled. Clearly
determine allowed and prohibited items and strictly adhere to
their requirements. Do not ask the child to just “behave”,
Explain to him what actions cause complaints and why.
- Encourage good behavior by affection and praise! Positive
reactions must be fixed. But avoid direct “bribing”
gifts – this is a dangerous path.
- Consider whether bad behavior is caused by fatigue or
hunger. Do not provoke such situations: for example, do not rush
tired baby during a tiring shopping and
etc.
- Encourage children to apologize for specific offenses. Help them
understand exactly what caused your disapproval.
Text: Tatyana Isaeva
