Fri, 16 Dec 2016
Probably in every yard there is a bully, when
whose parents are trying to catch the children and take them to the next
sandbox, or take a fighting stance, ready to protect them from
little aggressor. The epithets that other adults award
such a baby, very unflattering – “poorly educated”,
�”Abnormal”, “having deviations”. And the family of such a child
instantly recognized as unsuccessful – because someone taught him
cruel relationship with others? So this “someone” is a mother with
dad, who, no doubt, screaming at the naughty mattress, and
they treat him cruelly – beaten, humiliated, bullied. All these
reasoning seems clear and logical, until the very time when
own pipsqueak, just yesterday being the most tender and obedient,
today suddenly sculpts a weighty splash on another baby, bites to blood
and with obvious pleasure she falls asleep with sand an elegant girl.
What is the expression of aggression in children?
The first manifestations of child aggression occur in the period from 2 to
3 years. For someone, it is expressed smoothed and almost imperceptible.
for others, while parents of other babies are
outbreaks frighten and confound. Many turn out to be completely
ready to play the role of an aggressor
own child. Sometimes the baby behaves perfectly at home, and
demonstrates “bad inclinations” begins only on the site,
entering into a fight with peers. Often aggressive reaction
manifests itself so suddenly that nearby adults are not
have time to react. As a result – a stranger child offended,
shame, and sometimes conflict with the parents of the offended child.
Causes of aggression
To understand that the reason for this behavior is only
age, not any abnormalities, carefully
watch the child’s behavior in society. Reason for
negative reactions may be attempted by other children on his
property – thus manifests the first greed. It happens that
under the guise of unfriendly behavior hides the inability to build
first relationship with peers. Non-standard behavioral
It is home children who are used to
successfully coexist with adults, they are simply not able to
tie the first friendship with other babies.
How to respond?
Of course, the first reaction of an adult to such manifestations
outrage becomes. Greed, pugnacity and all bad
manifestations of character I want to immediately stop on the vine, and
bully – to punish so that “henceforth it will not be commonplace.” However experience
will hasten to assure you that this method not only does not work, but
begets even more aggression. But do not fall into another
extreme, taking the position of complete non-interference or making excuses
in front of other families, the catchphrase is: “these are children.” If you all
more often you get into embarrassing situations with your own child, it means
it’s time for a thorough debriefing. However read the notation and
do suggestions should not be on the playground. Most
role-playing is an effective way.
Role-playing games
Teach your baby to be friends and share at home. For this
you will need plush pets or dolls, as well as all the wisdom and
parental patience. Your task is to explain by example how
to be greedy is bad, why the one who is pushed is painful and in what
advantage of joint games. To an adult, these truisms seem
obvious, but in order to be aware of them, the child needs
time and personal experience, so explain the rules of first communication
better in the form of the game. Try to “lose” the situation with the child.
first acquaintance – how to start the game, how to share the treasure –
buckets, tins and scoops. Normally, the baby quickly catches
correct behavior model and easily transfers it to
reality.
