Most women at least once in their life faced with male
treason BUT те кто утверждает, чтоне сталкивался с этим неприятным
явлением, возможно просто не узнали о факте treason So according to
various studies from 60% to 76% of men on conditions
anonymity is recognized as changing or changing at least
wives. At the same time, only 26% admitted cheating on their spouses
40% of women, which is almost half.

The question arises – why men change so often. Behind
the answer is we decided to turn not to psychologists or family
consultants, and to the men themselves. In several large male
online communities we initiated a discussion of this topical
themes and, having interrogated the traitors with a special bias, forced them
tell the whole truth about the motives of their behavior.

After analyzing numerous answers and opinions, we identified five
the main reasons that make men look for sex on the side.
AND вот как они выглядят.

The first reason: Congenital polygamy of men

In any case, so say the men themselves. We are males
they say We are hunters. BUT во всем животном мире самцы всегда
are looking for new females to mate. Here we are hunting
because we are no different from other representatives of the animal
of the world. We cannot overcome our innate instincts, because we ourselves
nature took care of the breeding instinct to be stronger
intelligence. All for reproduction and procreation.

As we see, in this case, men act as if in
as hostages. AND даже в качестве жертв, не способных
to resist some circumstances beyond their control. However
it seems they are not too hard and try, but the situation itself is quite
satisfied. AND потому озвучивают вторую причину толкающих их на путь
treason

Reason Two: Sex Love and Pursuit
diversity in it

Yes, just like that. We love sex – they say men. But
as a favorite food, no matter how tasty it is – you will not eat
constantly, and with one woman do not want to constantly engage
having sex The pursuit of diversity, the search for something new is
natural positive process. BUT вот самоограничение, наоборот,
makes life boring and not interesting. BUT потому ложная мораль не
should be an obstacle to the enjoyment of life.
At the same time, we should not forget – they add that we have one life and
she is quite short. BUT следовательно нужно стремиться получить от
her all that is possible.

Reason Three: Relationship and Sexual Problems
of life

Those men who are not in a hurry to compare themselves with “other
представителями животного мира” и не стремятся “взять от этой of life
vse “nevertheless claim that the wives themselves force them to change
restricting sex or depriving any intimate joys. More often
This is due to the general cooling of family relations
возникает при продолжительной совместной of life. But иногда причиной
is sexual incompatibility. For example, a wife refuses
certain sexual games or caresses that a man dreams of.
Being deprived of this pleasure in the family bed, he begins
purposefully seek it on the side. AND, как правило, находит.

Reason Four: Spontaneous Unplanned Sex
side “

Yes, sometimes it happens. Corporate parties with
friends, holiday romance, excessive drinking – all this is sometimes
leads to casual sex, after which the morning arises
a sense of bewilderment and remorse. Formally, men even refuse
считать подобный секс treason “After all, this is unintended sex, and
therefore they do not count! ”they exclaim, turning to
legal terms.

Reason Five: Victims of seduction

Yes, yes, it happens. From spontaneous sex like situations
differ in that in this case sex becomes the result
planned actions of a certain seductress, resist
which was “decidedly impossible.” So anyway
men say. Whatever the case, men are not
which is nothing but a victim of circumstances.

ANDтак, что мы имеем. The image of strong men able to command
the world and its fate somewhat faded. Accessed another image
men as weak, limp toys in the hands of all kinds of “forces” and
“circumstances”. It would be good to even pity them, but pity
things do not fix it. AND потому мы спросили этих потенциальных
traitors straight in the forehead:

How should a woman behave that a man did not become
would change.

Having a little thought and having debated on this subject men agreed
in the opinion that with harmonious family relationships and diversity in
bed treason, in principle, becomes devoid of any meaning. From
добра добра не ищут – they say But добавляют, что сексуальная
life in this case must be really rich and
diverse and … in this regard, some men are waiting for women
initiatives. Behind три года отношений, – признался один из опрошенных,
– they made me just one intimate surprise, but you want more –
he sighed. AND многие с ним согласились.

Men’s treason: to forgive or not to forgive?

�“Physical treason is only a consequence of spiritual treason. ANDбо
people who gave each other love are not eligible
лгать»«Волхв», Джон Роберт Фаулз

For most women, one of the scariest words that
can negatively affect relationships with your loved one
is the word “treason”. We are very afraid of her, even without having
no good cause for concern (well, just in case).
BUT если, вдруг, появляются какие-то намеки или подозрения, то… AND тут
it all depends on the temperament and character of each particular woman:
one immediately with a scandal begins to sort things out, the other –
conduct a secret investigation (checking pockets, sms in phones and
etc. etc.), the third one gets depressed and starts blaming everything
yourself

But однозначно, что для всех измена любимого будет означать
almost the end of the world. This is because women and
men perceive treason differently. So say omniscient
psychologists. For a woman, male adultery means betrayal not
only physical, but also spiritual. BUT для мужчин — это может быть
insignificant episode which he forgets the very next
day, without even remembering the name of partner for adyulter. As all those assure
psychologists, “man for sex is not looking for a better woman than his
wife. He will suit almost any, he did not marry her
going Let her character is worse, or she does not know how to cook.
For men, it does not matter. He is important that she was
easily accessible, and all. “

Of course, it was written by male psychologists who are trying to us,
women panicking on such a “non-essential” issue
calm down. But что-то все равно легче от их научных обоснований не
becomes, and concern about the possible male treason not
decreases.

Especially for this article, a survey was conducted, including on
on our website, where readers were told how they would act in the case
Detection of circumstantial and direct evidence of her husband’s treason.
The questions were as follows:

Вопрос 1: Как вы поведете себя, заподозрив
her man (husband) in treason on indirect grounds (for example,
smell of women’s perfume on clothes)?

Вопрос 2: Как вы поведете себя, прямо уличив
husband’s treason (on the denunciation of friends or reading love
correspondence)?

Лариса 31 года, домохозяйка:Если появятся
suspicions on circumstantial signs, I will quietly and peacefully find out everything. BUT
if I see or read a letter that is already obvious, I will ask directly, but
then get acquainted with his mistress. I will not pull the hair, first
I will be friends, and then I will say a few gentle words. I сейчас
for sure I can not say what exactly will happen, but somehow
So. BUT потом – любопытно, почему она, а не я.

BUTида 32 года, домохозяйка:Наверное, все же, я
I will arrange an open interrogation with a scandal in both cases, such is
character But, позже, постараюсь найти свою вину.

Оксана 32 года, администратор:Об измене мужа
until I get direct evidence, I don’t want to think. BUT если прямо
suspected – divorce and maiden name. Direct evidence? My
he himself confesses if you ask him. is he врать не умеет, глаза сразу
give out. If a person is able to betray once, then 100% confidence in
he will be gone. BUT жить все время в сомнениях не в моем духе.

BUTлина 30 лет, архитектор:Если я что-то начну
suspect – he will never know about it, just, I think, I will
more attentive to detail, I will not make trouble, I will not
interrogate, I will not climb in personal belongings and look for clues – from
this roof can go … Just become more attentive to his
behavior – intuitively I think, any woman and without questioning can
understand – was treason or not. If I convict him of treason –
I think there will not even be a desire to know – why? Not in
In any case, I do not want to know who she is, to make her image
then the rest of his life did not pursue. Pretend that nothing
не было – НANDКОГДBUT, лечь в одну постель не смогу, мне будет
seem to be stained. I think simply – that I will collect things myself and
I will leave, there will surely be emotions, tears, but I will try to do it
beautiful, do not fall into the dirt face and keep respect for yourself.
Pah-pah-pah …

BUTнжелика 23 года, бухгалтер:Если я первый раз
I smell the smell of perfume, then I will not pay attention. The smell of perfume is not yet
treason If this happens again, then I take it very seriously.
I will talk. ANDзмену я никогда не прощу. For me it is considered
betrayal, living with a person without trust is impossible without believing in
his words, constantly thinking that he is on the other now and that she is better
you, since he changes you with her, look for any clue that he
changed again … It is very hard and not pleasant, it is better to
break up. I will not humiliate myself before the scandal, I just collect my things and
I will leave.

BUTнна 29 лет, домохозяйка:Сначала будит дикий
a scandal, and then – parting forever and irrevocably! BUT если
the girl-girlfriend will be my friend – she will not
say hello AND я со спокойной душой буду дальше жить, но без этих
people.

Julia is 31 years old экономист:Уличив мужа в измене,
scandals and surveillance I did not like, since my husband and I worked in
one organization. With his girlfriend, as it turned out, at work we
communicated a lot, but it did not affect our relationship
at least, no claims she did not express. I made it easier:
began to respond to the signs of attention of my boss, who
status at work above my husband. I think this is a defining moment
if there were a stockman or a driver, there would be no such effect. I
went to working hours with him to restaurants, and since the city we have
little, my husband quickly reported everything. Husband gave me a scene
jealousy, to which I said to him: you and your mistress
you finish, i’m with mine. It was all half a year. They fought
even. It ended with the fact that we both quit that job. AND
сейчас мы с ним работаем опять в one organization. Can say
the crisis has passed, and we have our honeymoon again!

Лилия 32 года, домохозяйка:Если бы я
felt the smell of women’s perfume, you probably would have asked why
it smells of perfume. Of course, he would otmazalsya – one hundred percent. I
would not pay attention, but would try to find out secretly.
Maybe he chose perfume for me and inadvertently spat on himself, and here I am
its scandal. If someone approaches me and says that my husband
changes me, I personally will not believe until I see it myself. You never know what
goals he or she has. Even if this is true, maybe I forgave
would just find out the reason why he changed.

Валерия 33 года, психолог:Не стану обращать
attention and aggravate. Find out the reason for his action, and there
we’ll see.

Елена 40 лет, учительница:My теперешний муж –
show business worker, so we just live in all these
indirect signs of treason. We’ve been together for 14 years
professional environment “bred” us for all time 50 times. For
for a long time there was a lot of things in our life. AND даже если не хочешь
know something, everyone will tell and show. There are always many who wish. But
we love each other and want to be together. So we will. because
we had plenty of reasons not to be around!

But the responses of readers of the site:

Green:I уличила его в измене пару месяцев
backwards The scandal was serious, but I forgave, I love too much. But на
that moment was ready to pack up and leave. Now I try to forget. BUT
If it happens again, I do not even know. I don’t want to think about it …

Настюша, 20 лет:1.Ничего ему не скажу, пока
I don’t know everything myself. 2. First, I pull out all the pats, and then
take him! To discourage it.

Deva, 35 лет:Выпила бы по бокалу шампанского с
the new “relative” for the fact that her lover cheats on her nightly
with me. Milo threw her out the door … He was given the opportunity
speak out, let him crawl at my feet and stuff, that
usually attached in a complex to when the husband is caught.
After some time I spent analyzing our relationship, made
conclusions …. I don’t know further, since it’s definitely personally in sex
I would not see myself anymore.

Atiuha:Тихо, спокойно буду выяснять, почему он
decided on such an act, as in most cases to blame
the woman herself is a betrayal of a loved one. Upon learning, I will correct the situation in
my favor To do a scandal is to harm yourself. This grief does not help …
So it would be logical to do, although you can behave on emotions
differently.

BUTнюта2011:В панику впадать не буду – это уж
for sure. I look at his behavior, whether there will be more such indirect
the signs. AND если дело запахнет жареным, то просто на прямую у него
I will ask. ANDстерик закатывать не стану. If I catch a cafe or
a crowded place, I will not sort things out in public – I will postpone it until
houses. I know one thing – and in one and in the other case, there will be long, hard
conversations and most likely a break in relationships (although, here it’s right
I would not categorically declare).

Лёkачка, 20 лет:В первом случае буду наблюдать
for the behavior of his man. In the second case there will be a conversation, with
which I will say everything that I think, I will collect his things and ask to get out
из houses. BUT бить любовницу – глупо, ведь я прекрасно знаю, что, так
how can I seduce my husband, she can never !!!

All the same tireless psychologists even conducted a study, in
which found out how a woman’s age affects her attitude to
male treason. It turned out that the older the woman, the calmer and
It is more rational to refer to the campaign “to the left” of her chosen one, and
the wiser becomes her outlook on life in general and on a man in
particular.

When I was 20 years old, I somehow argued with my mom about
how to behave, catching her husband treason. Then, remember, blazing
With righteous indignation, I declared that I would not tolerate betrayal.
Since he can do this to me (I hypothetically argued this
about the future husband), then let him roll on all four sides. I’m sorry
I can never! Mom on it very gently objected, but what exactly
she said, I do not remember, because I heard at that moment only
yourself The only thing I remembered is: “We must be able to forgive, although
and very difficult. BUT лучше, конечно, ничего не знать».

Since then, more than 10 years have passed and now I’m no longer so sure of
its former categorical, and the words of mom are increasingly forced
review your life position. But один вопрос меня все же
never ceases to bother: why are some representatives of the stronger sex
go on about the call of the flesh, especially not thinking about the consequences, but
other men (real ones in my opinion) remain faithful to one
the only favorite, despite its monogamous nature.

With this question, I stuck to my husband (he is my psychologist,
so I was interested in his professional point of view). is he
answered that everything depends on the conscience of the person, whether he will allow himself
cross the line or not. «AND еще очень важно уважение, если
if you respect your beloved, you will not want to hurt her. ”

After these words, I completely calmed down and decided this: let’s be
It is holy to believe that:

1) we got very conscientious and sincerely respecting us
husbands

2) you and I are wise beyond the age of women who can
forgive.

3) it’s better, of course, not to know anything … (see point 1)

Comments

Zhenya 12/24/2016 I have a very tough place here. AND он в курсе. ANDзмена –
the only reason I will divorce without further ado and
clarifications. I очень мужа люблю. But если он изменит, то не смогу жить
with him. God forbid it to survive … I am sure that from his side
the reasoning is the same. is he не простит измену. That’s how we live. Love
afraid to lose each other. We try to trust, but still
experiencing both) but even the Church allows divorce for
treason Olenka 12/08/2016 If I find out that my husband has changed me,
I’ll drive out of the house with one gym bag. BUT сама выйду замуж в
soon! I will not swear! Юличка 29 28.10.2016 I сегодня
I give him all the evidence but he is not exactly to make excuses
tells me and who passed me. Наверно ТЕБI СДBUTЛ ДBUTРТBUTНЬIН ТЫ ЖЕ
ПANDД…….С! guest 03/05/2016 and if the wife wants to change her husband?
guest 03/05/2016 and if the wife wants to change her husband?