Sat, Jan 23, 2016
According to disappointing statistics, 64% of registered
Marriages today end in divorce. This means that by joining
marriage is more likely to stay with us than live
happily ever after. Why is this happening?
The concept of “Marriage” in modern modern times is far from its
true value. This interesting word came to us from
Old Slavonic language, and implies the concept of “marriage” and
carrying out the ritual “get married.” The current meaning of this concept
so narrowed that it involves only “marriage” and nothing
more.
The urgency of the problem is so obvious that lead discussions and
share thoughts about it, just do not have time. Are needed
concentrated and targeted actions to address this
Problems. The reasons for the breakup of marriages should be sought not only in
that this is facilitated by free and permissiveness in behavior
youth, freedom of morals and worldview, the influence of others, but
and deep in childhood years and manner of education.
As a rule, few parents teach the child the right
understanding of responsibility and responsibility for family
himself, but also for his wife, and in the future – children. When in the family
there are children – it imposes additional responsibilities and
responsibility on the newly minted parents. Facing the first
difficulties, young couples understand that they are not ready to bear such
burden.
After some time of married life, it turns out
that the young man cannot financially provide for the family, but
the girl can not live saving family funds. Often
the idea of marriage for young people is limited to a fabulous life
with all the comforts and liberties. The very fact of marriage is still
does not guarantee a happy family life. Married couples experience
who have lived together for more than a dozen years, shows that
family relationships are a kind of work for the creation
families.
So, we can say that one of the reasons for the collapse of modern
Marriage is a misconception about marriage in general. After a couple
years a married couple has already overcome some
difficulties, suddenly feels that relationships have become rude, lost
nature of love. Distrust between husband and wife and no
understanding, increasingly you can hear rude and insulting
words, and it seems that such a family exists only for the purpose of
hurt each other.
Perhaps in this situation, the couple just got used to each other.
and there was an instant and erroneous thought that, in principle, no
need to be gentle, affectionate, tactful and modest
considered unnecessary. Often women forget about their destination.
– the creation of a husband and children of family comfort. Career growth and desire
to realize oneself is often perceived as achievable
sole purpose. And why not combine them? Become successful
woman, as well as in the field of activity, and in a family.
The beginning was wonderful: kisses and kind words, care and
responsiveness. And then the first feelings cooled down. Spouses have forgotten how
talk to each other nice, smile and tenderly look into
eyes. In the end, they ceased to reckon with the psychology of man,
close by But whatever the “hard” character of your
spouse or spouse, at times he needs affection.
And against the background of such factors as the lack of housing,
financial situation, interventions in family relationships of relatives
relatives, alcoholism or drug use of one of
family members, it’s difficult in family relationships to create harmony and
comfort
In the chaos of modern life, to survive and preserve the family is not a task
from the lungs. Government programs to support young families
can cover the whole amount of work and help everyone.
But first of all, start preparing for the creation of a family and
marriage is necessary only from oneself and the decision to join
in marriage to take mutually with the understanding of full responsibility. Not
need to be afraid of difficulties. Who said it would be easy? Vital
trials … they only make us stronger.
It is necessary to learn to promote each other in a focused
development. Not стоит спешить с разводом. Can just talk to
dear person, understand what happened and how to help him.
If you love each other – show love! And sad
statistics disappear by itself!
