Чт, 05 мар 2015 Автор: Катерина Орлова
I think it is advisable to immediately identify a couple of points about yourself.
I do not have rich parents who support me. My income is
average. I do not own a home and a car.
I am an ordinary provincial who has been living in the capital for 11 years.
At the same time, I am so raised that I do not sell my love for money.
Therefore, I find it normal in a relationship not only to demand something
from men financially, but also to spend money. That’s just
in practice, this my life principle transforms into desire
save their money on themselves.
The motives for saving their money were different: at the beginning of a relationship –
show that I need a person, not his money; in the middle – what
I am economical and take care of him; at the end of the relationship – not accounted for
save them money. After all, no one wanted them on me
to spend.
Итак, история номер один — начало отношений.
The first date – going to the cinema. He buys tickets. It’s all gone
OK. We are going to the taxi home. And I say to him: “Listen, you paid for
tickets – shall I pay for a taxi? ”His answer:“ If I had known that
If you pay for a taxi, you would buy chips with a cola at the cinema.
Well, pay if you want it. ” I paid with a clear conscience,
because she herself suggested it. And what is most pleasant after that
dating him, not me, didn’t want to extend the relationship.
История номер два — середина отношений. Is he –
Secured doctor from another city. I am a graduate student. Relations
tied up with this man during the summer holidays and very violently
evolved. Autumn came – I returned to school, so meeting
lasted only at the weekend.
The first meeting, he just put the money on the table and said:
�”This is for you. Buy yourself what you want. ” And what did I do? Felt
guilt and responsibility for how I spend the money. In the head
one thought reigned: “I am not an egoist. It is not beautiful to spend it
earned money only on themselves. ” And this phrase led my
deeds. For his first money – I bought him a pair of expensive
medical gowns. For the second – a sweater in the company store.
Then I said: “Honey, remember, did you give me money? So here
I didn’t spend it on myself, but I bought you a gift, ”and stretched
to him in a beautiful package that brought. Reactions: “Oh, what are you
I am well done ”- was not. There was a silent silence, a dry word.
thanks You do not think he liked the gifts. He told
me then, what enthusiastic responses bathrobes and a sweater he received from
employees and friends.
But for some reason, the understanding that I spend money on him, and not on
myself, did not motivate him to continue giving them to me further. More i
from him did not receive a penny. Then I bought him gifts for
its already money. Therefore, when we broke up – he had
I have a half of the new wardrobe given by me, nothing.
С другим молодым человеком я совершала ошибки в
wishes for gifts. For example, to his question: “What flowers do you
donate for February 14? ”I replied:“ Oh, honey, they are so expensive.
Plus winter – they quickly wilt. And I have such a strange taste –
I find it hard to please with a bouquet. ” After that, I’m from this person neither
never seen flowers. Even for a birthday. After all, made it clear that
you will not please me. And the fact that I do not understand why I give them.
My second mistake was related to the question: “What a gift to you
buy on March 8? “and my answer (for which I myself still
I can’t forgive), sounded like this: “Buy me a yoga mat. But only
the cheapest. Without fanaticism, dear.
Well, after this I am not a fool? Who decided to save? On
myself? And what did this show a man? Its thrift and economy
or the fact that I don’t even value myself. And why can I demand
respect for others
person does not show this? I received a gift, and asked what:
a cheap rug that I threw away after a couple of months.
Последняя история связана с концом отношений.
When my female intuition told me that our weekend
choking with life and boredom, I decided to take everything into my own hands. Onшла
a hotel that offered a suite in the low season
(decorated with candles and rose petals) for half the price. And here I am all
paid for and arranged a surprise for the young man. Thought he,
realizing the cost of such a gift, pay at least for the food that we
ate in the room. But wrong. Once my initiative means my and
purse. After this incident, there was no more romance in the relationship.
– because I refused to pay for it.
Common to these stories is that for a long time I haven’t
understood why friends on whom men spend money, so
build relationships easily. And only after a while I came to a simple
the truth that all psychologists say: “The more man
puts in a woman – the more he gets attached. “
The conclusion I live with now is: save money
men are saving on themselves. It’s always worth remembering
words by M. M. Remarki: “A woman who saves on herself causes
surrounding only one desire – save her even more. “
Love and appreciate yourself, my dear. Don’t let mine
mistakes.
