The psyche is the individual processes, properties and
states that allow you to perceive, learn and transform
reality. Like any life system, the psyche is experiencing and
lack of “power”, and overload, leading to
stresses.
Therefore it is necessary to constantly keep in order
систему саморегуляциии и «самоочищения», чтобы адекватно
respond to new situations.
Gradually accumulates a bunch of unresolved issues that
cause discomfort and anxiety. But we try to pay
attention only to the most relevant or interesting, but about the rest
�”Forget”. Can be compared with the wall, which is re-painted over
old paint, because of which the top layer collapses – no
adhesion to the surface.
Remember! Wise nature gave us emotions so that they
prompted to action: fear is needed in order to run,
pleasure in repeating this action. If you have
there was a problem, you can regret yourself and complain, but only in
as an introduction to a practical solution.
Contents
We want
Emotions are still designed for the presence of other people – this
non-verbal cues. And alone there is no need to be so offended
or sob.
The most serious decisions are made alone, you can
ask everyone for nonstop: retire me from work or not,
but finally have to decide for yourself.
For some reason, many coaches and psychologists offer in crisis
moments to switch attention, jump with a parachute, rescue
homeless to get rid of their own worries. A bit strange
method, of course, is how to leave a dirty apartment for a visit, but
then have to come back.
Therefore, you need to go from what you do not want to the fact that
you want No need to constantly discuss what you feel bad for
determine what is good for you and in accordance with this correctly
allocating your own time is the most valuable resource.
Is always! There is a specific reason
for annoyance and anxiety even when it seems like it
�”It is not clear that,” “just tired.” Let’s say annoys you
mother-in-law, but you smile for years, admire, and then at home
break on children and husband. Or you just do not have enough money for
daily needs, but talking about this is “indecent”. In our
desires there is nothing “dirty”, “shameful”, “ugly”, such
what you can not admit to yourself.
Model
To “reboot” you need to simulate mental
situations.
- �”Close” unnecessary programs – the usual things and relationships can
become a “virus” that spends your energy, provokes
depressed mood. Any serious event requires
preparation, it is necessary to move away from current issues in order to
scrutinize the “abandoned corners” in your own
personality. - �”Turn off” the power, relax – everything seems to be fine,
work, family, weekend, but I want to escape from here. If you have
there was a feeling that the end of the world was coming and it’s time for you to bury
away from everyone, run, physically distantly purely under any
a pretext for a couple of days. At a distance, all are visible
defects in communication, as in painting during repair. - Select priority cases and files – the most exciting and enjoyable
feelings arise during the selection period before the event: when a woman
chooses a dress for a wedding, a new housewarming apartment
position among several offers. So mentally play
“what I want in this life” situation and write down a few
wishes, even the most insane. Then arrange as you reach
and choose the most desirable and realizable. It is possible that it
will become your new goal.
Concretize
Next, you need to go to practical actions and decompose
places accumulated concepts and ideas about the environment.
Try “start over”, “from Monday”, “from scratch”, but
at the level of specific actions.
- Past – deal with the past, that you most
upset that I would like to change, from what forever
get rid of. Do not try to categorically decompose into “bad” and
�”Good”, no need to “forget” and “throw away.” In your life there is no
Nothing “extra”, each passing day makes you older and
more experienced.
If you are haunted by previous insults, try to mentally play
�“Litigation” or a television show script where two parties appear:
you and your opponents. Try an impartial look at
situation, very rarely people offend others for fun, rather
all, they had rational reasons.
It is necessary in the role of “judge” to come to a compromise solution, with
opportunities, talk on this topic with “enemies”, most often people
very happy to have the opportunity to establish contacts. So you can
�”Fix” and clear the past.
- Present – specifically write your schedule, your lessons on
throughout the month, put a minus or
�”Plus” depending on the emotions that it causes. First
all analyze cons, try to determine the most
big, fattest, which literally enrages, oh which you more often
just remember and complain to everyone.
And think about what you can do with it: is it possible to remove it from
life, or do you need him for the role of “victim”? If you really
�”Smart” and “strong”, you should understand that the stupid grumpy
mother-in-law or flighty boss will not disappear and certainly not
change their behavior for you.
And you do not have to change, but you are able to manage your
perception, looking down, you can see either puddles or reflection
stars Or both together, which is quite reasonable.
- Future – set a specific goal for about one year ahead
and 3-4 tasks for the next month. For example, goal: adding to
группу в соцсети 10 000 подписчиков, задачи на месяц: изучить
page 10 competitors and similar groups, upgrade your own
content, chat with a targeting specialist, find online courses about
advancement in search engines.
The hardest thing for the year: do the proper
conclusions and admit to ourselves what we have actually achieved. Maybe,
that nothing, but no one will know about it, you can remain silent.
Thus, one can endlessly start a diet, sign up in
gym, engage in creativity – no one
will ask!
Learning
Learn blurry, generalized desire to translate into
конкретный план действий: «хочется денег» – нужно найти
New job, upgrade skills, wait for inheritance, win
at the casino.
Очень сложный этап – органично вписать своё решение в
привычную среду, то есть, публично признаться в своих
thoughts still have to do it. For example: I quit with
work, I will cook cakes to order at home, or buy a camera and camp
wedding videographer. Ambient will remind of your
plans and follow how they progress. As they say, smart
understand, but let the stupid envy.
Самоконтроль и самоотчёт – и так регулярно,
straining at first, and then you get used to how you get used to tonometers and
drugs. It is better to constantly watch yourself than periodically
complain “I’m dying”, “I’m depressed.”
Кстати, примерно за 3-4 недели в мозгу формируются новые
устойчивые связи, если усердно соблюдать время тренировок,
then the body will begin to “ask” the load, also with intellectual and
creative activities.
