Fri, 25 Nov 2016
Falling in love, people at some point begin to consider themselves one
whole, they start to live together later, get married. And at this stage
There are many questions about the personal space of a man and
women.
Each person is a separate person, no matter how great
the feeling of love for a partner, there are boundaries of personal space, beyond
who should not overstep. However, at first, in love
it often seems to a couple that they can hold together every second,
share all impressions, secrets, erase the boundaries between personal
and general. A comprehensive word “WE” appears: “we are going to visit”,
�”We, perhaps, do not go with you”, “we now have one for two
page with social network.
However, as practice shows, after a rather short time,
one of the partners starts to suffer from constant interventions in
his space, he begins to yearn for his “I”, the very
�”I”, which used to have their innermost thoughts, their little
secrets, your personal preferences.
To say where personal space begins and where it is not worth
�It is difficult to “climb” even to a husband or wife, it depends on a lot,
however, there are some general provisions that
disagreements:
- Friends.
It is worth remembering that besides you, your partner still has
close friends, like friends. And quite naturally, if your
the second half will suddenly want to spend the evening with friends without you
or do not want to talk about the topic of a telephone conversation with
buddy. The reasons can be many and sometimes, even infinitely.
trying, you will not know what your partner talked about at the meeting with
with his friends or about what he “almost half an hour” talked with the friend on
telephone. Of course, you can ask how he spent time
without you, but do not insist, if you do not report it
will want to. Perhaps it is difficult to understand, because you are accustomed to all
share among themselves. But believe me, leaving your beloved
a little bit of “air”, you make it appreciate you even more
understanding.
Here, for example, the opinion of one of the readers of our portal:
�“My husband and I have a democratic family and everyone has their own
personal space, despite the fact that we are trying to hold
together every free minute. I know my husband’s friends, we talked and
walked along with their families. If the format of the meeting “bachelor”,
then I refuse to go. Let them rest and gossip about theirs. My
My husband also knows my girlfriends, but we are not friends with families, so always
meet only female team. It turns out that everyone has their own
company…”
- Social networks.
Who does not have an account in social networks? They are judged on
person, according to the “status” placed, they understand whether he is in
any relationship, etc. People who are passionate about social networking.
networks, as a rule, have many virtual friends. Exactly
so jealous or jealous require their second half
access to the page to control the communication, understand “with whom it is
he rewrites, and when I approach, he collapses
page. Here the situations can be so different that give
advice on each of them is not possible.
But the main, nevertheless, we list. First, the correspondence may
contain so confidential information that she can
touch only two people and the second, you can be, alas, not you. it
does not mean that you do not appreciate and do not like. it говорит о том,
that you and your boyfriend are not conjoined twins. You all
equal to say exactly as much as will be needed, and if you do
will achieve the desired “truth”
to change. You need it? Would you be pleased if at your
communicating with a friend or workmate (classmate,
fellow student, etc.) someone stood and read the correspondence? Ответ «да,
пожалуйста, мне нечего скрывать» не подойдет. Because in it
There is no truth, there is slyness. If you want with your girlfriend
discuss your own young man, you call him to read
correspondence?
Opinions of our regular readers:
�“We do not know each other’s passwords, do not check, do not break.
We trust each other! We have saved passwords, so I and he
can just open the page and find out everything. I personally can
to say that I am absolutely not interested in crawling on his page because
husband is not my property and may have secrets from me if
he wants … “
�“There were no problems. Social networks have always been open.
phones – please. only none of us needed
climb something to watch, check, etc. it уже вопрос не личного
space, and trust, I believe. “
�“In our social networks I mostly sit like that. on
work there is internet, but never my husband asked me for a password from
Classmates or Vkontakte. And why should he read my gossip with
friends? “
And yet, when the passion for social networks goes all
boundaries if you see that it is more interesting for a person to spend hours chatting with
заочно зonкомыми ему людьми, чем проводить время с вами, стоит
think about the level of your relationship.
- 3 Family relationships.
Even when you are creating a young family with a man, the family is “old”
(parents, sisters, brothers, etc.) remains with you. Not necessary
stick in family quarrels, problems, comment on the actions of those
or other relatives, because, as a rule,
perceived as an invasion of personal space.
From the above, it turns out that to penetrate into a personal
human space is not necessary, but also not worth it and give full
freedom. Only a single person is completely free. If you
be in a relationship, that is, a restriction
donate Полonя свобода — показывает равнодушие со стороны
partner, which leads to a sense of uselessness, loss of trust and
full cooling to each other.
