Mon, Jan 12, 2015
For most daughters-in-law, the arrival of the mother-in-law is a great stress. ABOUT
how to live with her, not even talk, it is clear that
not everyone can stand that. But even if she is going to visit
you a couple of weeks, the daughter in law is waiting for a considerable test. It is clear that two
housewives in the house – this is to the problems. Every woman has her own rules
housekeeping and own troubles that outsider
man does not understand. You may get annoyed by one, she is from
the other, in the end, each will be unhappy. But if meetings are not
to avoid, it is worth it to prepare as much as possible and tune in to
positive.
Let’s take a look at the recommendations given by the psychologist.
Harry Chapman, known for his book “Five Languages of Love.”
First, he advises you to understand how you feel about your mother-in-law, what
Feel for her. Depending on this, you will need
adjust your behavior. If you are already subconsciously
you feel hatred, you need to suppress it, calm down and
try to start to perceive the husband’s mother a little differently.
The psychologist advises not to treat the mother-in-law not as an enemy or as
friend, but as a close interlocutor. On an unfamiliar person you
can not get angry over trifles. You do not show him your
character, trying to look your best, you want to appear
hospitable. Try to treat the mother-in-law that way. Not necessary
Immediately label her with shakes, with which you should
fight. Immediately abandon these thoughts, besides with the interlocutor
you can talk on equal terms, without being humiliated, but without putting it below
him. This is the perfect position for talking with his husband’s mom.
Secondly, do not argue over trifles. It may be better if
you will spend less time at home, giving mom and son
spend time together. ABOUTднако и пропадать на работе или у друзей не
is worth it, otherwise your mother-in-law will have a chance to accuse you of not having
pay attention to her husband.
Try to communicate with the mother-in-law friendly. In no case
try to impose your rules on her. Suffer these few weeks
live for long as she got used to.
Try to speak on those topics that like mother-in-law and not
make you enter into an argument with her. For example, about your husband. More
Praise him, ask about his childhood. Such talk to her
like, and you will not be difficult to admire his beloved
by man.
If there is a conflict between you, you need to hush it up.
ABOUTстаньтесь наедине и откровенно спросите, чем она недовольна. In
be respectful, be tactful and calm
find out everything.
Do not force your man to take someone’s side. ABOUTн не
may burst. He loves you like a woman, but she is his mother, eh,
значит, вы обе важны для нhim. The only thing he can do
is to tell you in advance about your mother’s habits, about her
I do not like what she is used to, which is not worth doing with her.
Knowing the nuances, many conflicts can be avoided.
For a moment, you can see that the man has changed and
when my mother became a naughty boy who needs to be protected. Not
make of this tragedy and do not start a quarrel. Believe how
only his mom will leave, he will take on his courageous image, his
infantilism is a temporary phenomenon that can be experienced.
A meeting with his mom is certainly a test, but if not
program yourself on conflicts and quarrels with the mother-in-law, and
try to understand it, then everything can turn out quite well.
Inйдите в ее положение и проявите тактичность, тогда вы сможете
keep peace in your family.
