Ср, 11 ноя 2015 Автор: Юлия Улиткина
Divorcing a husband does not mean that they will leave with him.
the senses.
It happens, love stubbornly does not want to die, despite all the arguments
offended mind. Every woman is going through this terrible time.
in their own way.
Someone is trying to drown suffering in new sensations or
relationship, someone plunges into the depths of depression, someone builds
reunion plans.
If the heart hurts, and the soul is torn, it is difficult to think. Easy to make
stupidity or to drive itself into a corner. But exactly this to do
can not. You need to concentrate, drive away unnecessary emotions and
to shift the focus of inner vision from the former spouse to yourself. You –
the center of a personal universe, and nothing else matters now.
What is in this universe without the former constant – the former spouse?
Analysis will help to understand the feelings.
Perhaps, with his departure, life became simpler, easier, more understandable?
It may be that you are not connected by love, but by habit or material
addiction? Try to replace the image of her husband to any other
endowing it with husbandly functions: care, support, household decision
and financial problems, help with children, common interests and affairs. If a
replacement is permissible and does not cause internal rejection, then chase
over the past is not necessary. Not love, but habit, convenience,
comfort.
But if it is impossible to imagine anyone else,
if the analysis ends up with an understanding over and over again: “I love the former
husband, have to make a difficult decision.
Contents
I love my ex-husband and I want to return!
If a жизнь без вывшего немила и любовь не дает дышать, можно
think about getting your spouse back. But before you start
act think whether you are ready to change. Remember: to you
will return the same person who left. To create with it new
relationship, will have to change itself. Otherwise repeat the sad finale
inevitable.
When deciding to fight for a loved one, make sure that you are in charge of clean
feeling, not fear of loneliness, fear of being at the center of gossip
or unwillingness to worsen their financial situation. Only love
may be a worthy reason for family reunion. And that only
in the event that it is mutual, that is, feelings and from his side
faded away. Otherwise, all attempts to impose their love will cause
only irritation on his part.
The plan is as follows.
• Первый шаг — работа над ошибками. Bye in
alone We need to remember everything that irritated him in
your life together, the causes of quarrels, his claims to you. If a
a woman can change, give her ex-husband something that he does not
enough to be married, to be what he asked her to be, the chance
there is. It is necessary to get rid of all their claims
forgive resentment, throw away memories of bad times before and during
divorce time. Only positive can be the beginning of something new.
The bottom line is not to return the old family, and create a new one.
• Второй шаг — создать условия для более-менее
regular communication. This is easy to do if there is a common
children. During the meetings – no reproaches, accusations and tears. Easy
smile, free behavior, excellent appearance and sparks
unobtrusive interest in the affairs of the ex-husband. People a few years
married, binds a lot of memories, some common
affairs so it is right to build new relationships much
easier.
• You can ask your husband for a small favor with children
or life. A small repair in the kitchen or a joint trip to the rink
will help to melt the ice.
• Intimate relationships that continue after a divorce can also
to influence the decision to try to start everything from scratch.
Especially if the wife has not turned into an eternally suffering “abandonment” with
a mask of suffering on the face and without shine in the eyes. Main weapon
women at any age and any situation is beauty and
inner strength Therefore, hairstyle, manicure-pedicure, beautiful lingerie,
easy smile and mysterious look are required! Former must
feel a certain anxiety: and after all all this beauty can
get to anyone! .. Owner’s instinct will play into the hands of this
situations.
• Другое дело, что отдаваться бывшему мужу по любому его
desire not worth it. He can regard this lightness as
willingness to wait for him forever and begin to use it without a twinge
conscience. Yes, you love your ex-husband, but not to the extent that
turn your home into a short-term haven and fulfill the role
sisters of mercy.
• Мужчины тяжело отвыкают от привычного быта.
Even if the husband went to another woman, sooner or later the veil
love with his eyes subside. He will see not only virtues
of his new passion, but also remember how good he was with
you. An inevitable comparison will begin, which may not go on
favor mistress. The wife knows all the preferences of men in food and life.
Who knows if he wants to change the image of the brutal
hero-lover on a soft blanket and a plate of rich borscht?
• Категорически запрещено давить на жалость,
responsibility, guilt. Nothing except negative
the ex-husband will not experience emotions, irritation and even hatred.
Принуждать его к возвращению в семью ни под каким предлогом can not.
The decision must belong to him entirely, otherwise the whole idea will end.
a failure.
• Критика новой супруги мужа недопустима. Not
It is worth giving this fact a special meaning. As they say, you have
own wedding, we have our own. Ex-husband shouldn’t notice either
jealousy, no hatred, no offense – all that is capable
amuse his vanity.
• Подстегнуть его интерес можно демонстрацией своего
good mood and grooming. And so he let him decide with
What is the former spouse shines.
• Notльзя отказываться от общения с ближним кругом
ex husband. Friends, parents, close relatives are
people who can influence him and who need to know that you
до сих пор любите ex husband. Ask for help them, of course, not
follows. But continue to communicate, as if nothing had happened, –
wise move
I love my ex-husband and I want to forget!
A woman who loves her ex-husband, but understands that to return
it cannot be, must make another decision. Not нужно страдать и
blame it all on yourself, a divorced or evil rock. We must take volitional
decision and forget the former.
First of all, get used to the idea that the old is not
воротишь. A life не кончилась, а наоборот, началась. And she
be sure to be happy. Changes need to be perceived as
as if fate presented a new chance. Instead of a dull existence
next to a man who does not appreciate, does not love, offends with indifference,
there may be a completely new, unfamiliar person.
A life чудесным образом станет яркой, счастливой, и то, что раньше
it seemed love, will turn into not very pleasant, but valuable
life experience.
What you need to do to throw the former spouse out of his
of life?
Keep away from the eyes of all that reminds of
him This is a kind of memory reset that clears
and soothes. Joint photos, his gifts, household trifles,
with which some memories are connected, – all this needs to be put in
box and send away. In addition, that the eyes will not
come across ghosts of a bygone love, subconsciously such an act
purification will be perceived as a symbolic gesture of readiness for
new relationships, new life. Less and less will appear
thought “I love my ex-husband.”
You can try the method of the opposite. Simply
write on a piece of paper all the faults of the ex-husband, ridiculous or
unpleasant habits, fooling habits – in general, everything that will help
to stop loving Often, losing someone, we begin to idealize him.
So concentrating on the negative will help to cope with this unnecessary
idealization. Mourn in the soul and rejoice for yourself: now
To endure this “treasure” will have another woman. Success!
А вот теперь пришло время позаботиться о себе и поднять
your self-esteem. If a очень тяжело, начните с малого:
Every evening, remember the things that you managed to do, praise
yourself for every little thing. I cried today only once? Good girl!
Baked pancakes for children? Well done! Pamper yourself by any means:
pleasant procedures that were previously a pity for money and
time, meeting with friends, dancing and hobbies. The bottom line is to
fill your life with pleasant emotions and positive energy
strengthen self confidence. Then thoughts like “I love my ex-husband
how to live on? ”will be less and less disturbing in the end
will die on the sidelines.
The only thing you should not do – urgently start
novel. The tormented soul is not yet ready for a new relationship.
Acting in a hysterical state, you can bind yourself unnecessary
relationships, complicate life and yourself, and another person.
I’ll take my revenge because I love my ex-husband
The desire to take revenge on her ex-husband and his new passion arises
often. It creates fear, powerlessness, hatred. �”I love
ex-husband, ”thinks an abandoned woman, carrying a plan of revenge.
It seems to a woman that the feeling that burns her soul is love.
Unfortunately, this is not the case. Love is joy and goodness, and revenge
it is hate and pain. And the worst thing that ultimately
everyone will suffer, including the abandoned woman. If a она на самом
loves her ex-husband, she should give up all thoughts of revenge and
just wish happiness to him and his companion. It is difficult and painful
but necessary.
Revenge will inevitably attract the attention of other people and
set them up against avenger. Friends, neighbors, parents, children,
colleagues – all will be in the course of an unseemly act, whether
gossip, an attempt to disgrace the former spouse or a specific action.
How does this affect communication with them? How will affect the psyche
baby? How will it affect your own psyche?
Revenge does not bring relief. That nervous lift that
accompanied by a period of preparation, followed by complete devastation and
energy blockade. Notнависть и гнев никогда не подарят
peace and joy.
If a хочется отомстить, то сделать это можно только
one way: forget about the person who once brought
so much pain.
Cross it out of life and become confident, independent,
happy
Love ex husband but let him go
Отпустить на все четыре стороны — вот что
должна сделать женщина, которая на самом деле любит ex husband.
Looking for support in life should not be in another person, but in yourself.
Confidence gives strength, and strength allows you to let go of someone
really expensive. Not нужно цепляться за призрак любви. To find
new way, open your own door to happiness – that’s what
worth the work.
Forgive, let go and wish happiness on the other.
– the only way to confirm to yourself that you love the former
husband Nothing terrible happened, right? He is alive and this
the main thing. Other arguments for a loving heart are not needed.
Having decided to let the former spouse out of your heart, you need to find
recharge positive energy from the outside. Sports, pool, salon, resort –
any way to get distracted and gain self-confidence.
Just no short-term and confused novels! Otherwise, instead of
уверенности придет разочарование и новые страдания на тему �”I love
ex-husband. “
But to afford a sense of freedom, joy and happiness you need
required It is necessary to use everything that can cause at least
echo of these feelings. Over time, they will get stronger and become
real ones. It will not be easy, but life is worth it. Finally,
divorce can be the very push that has always been lacking,
to succeed.
