Сб, 30 янв 2016 BUTвтор: Николай Новиков
My sister is 29 years old. She is pretty beautiful. Clever. Has a good
work Car. The apartment. Leads an active lifestyle. Often
travels But at the same time she is lonely. Over the past five years
she never had a serious relationship. And the fear of being alone
“after 30” literally poisons her life.
Reflecting on her situation, I noticed that around
women are in a similar position. Two of them are close friends.
my wife’s. And after a quick survey of my friends, I found out that
only in the circle of my intercourse there are nine women in the middle
from 20 to 40 years of no permanent relationship. And all of them
experience their loneliness differently and dream of finding love, but
while they have it, alas, does not come out.
After analyzing their stories, I noted some similar points in
their behavior, allowing more or less accurately judge the reasons
their loneliness. By eliminating these reasons, they could gain marital
happiness and in order to help them in this – I decided to write this article.
The demographic situation in our country today is not
in favor of women. According to the census of women in our country
ten million more than men.
If we deduct all alcoholics from the total number of men,
mentally ill, disabled, imprisoned and gay, then the ranks
potential suitors will thin even more. And if we subtract from
the remaining number of all “zhenatikov”, the remainder will be such that
it would seem he immediately automatically explains the reasons for such a large
numbers of single women.
Should I despair in this situation?
And no. Because above we looked only part
statistics. But let’s think about the huge number
women solely for their imprudent, extravagant, and sometimes
just stupid behavior repel worthy men as
Immediately my soul will become much easier. Although statistics and does not indicate
a significant number of such women, however she is with cold precision
testifies – 60% of all marriages in Russia ends in divorce.
For comparison, in Japan, only 27% of married couples are divorced. And in India
one%.
What does this mean? That not only women but great
a lot of men around every day become lonely. If to
add to these men who have not yet found their ideal
the embodiment of which you are – the picture becomes much
more positive. And it gives not just hope, but direct
confidence that your half even after hitting for a while
into the maelstrom of erroneous relationships, yet will find you to gain with you
happiness. Your task is to make this desired man
did not pass by you. And this will be discussed below.
So back to our nine single women (including my
sister). There is something in common in their situations that needs to be addressed.
Special attention. They all argued that “despite all the efforts”
can not find a suitable pair. While observing with
the parties showed that each of these women periodically receive
dating offers which they almost always immediately
reject.
It looks like a phenomenon. Single women passionately
wanting relationships – reject all opportunities to establish these
relations. However, there is an explanation. Rather, even two
explanations.
First, in the stories of almost every one of these women
revealed … old love. A man from the past or present to
to which all thoughts are chained and around which all are concentrated
the dreams of our lonely ladies. My sister, for example, is her colleague
work. Who has and always had a girlfriend. Which never
was in no relationship with my sister. What does not interfere with my sister
year after year hope and believe in the possibility of such
relationship.
Against this background, colleagues all other men seem to my sister
so useless, or at least mundane, that she looks
through them absolutely not noticing them. And as we see, it is easy
explains the fact that despite regular attempts
meet her my sister continues to be and feel
lonely. She rejects all men right away because “they don’t
Andrew”.
Other girls also had their own “Andrei”. Someone has them
old love The man who gave them a “few days” fiery
love, and then married to another or went to another city. AT
in some cases – the husband of a friend or even a neighbor.
And this leads us to the first important conclusion: the former or
unrequited love – can be a serious impediment to
family happiness. And although you can’t order your heart, you need to take a look.
truth and admit, all these dreams, thoughts and sufferings –
unresponsive. They are the way to nowhere. They are like an impenetrable barrier.
отгораживают вас от всех возможных реальных relationship. By the way in
In some cases, the love for
to a certain fictional ideal. But be that as it may, from everyone
such unresponsive relationships, living in your thoughts – it is necessary
refuse once and for all to feel fully that real
the void in which you are and which can make you
act seriously
Make it difficult. Because the question immediately arises: What am I
get in return for refusing “my Andrew”? Those pathetic
losers who strive to meet me all the time in
underground? Among them I choose? They cause fumes, they
untidy and sometimes just arrogant. And sometimes the opposite – mumble,
who can not connect two words. So what is my benefit?
And here we come to a very important point. Perhaps the most
important in the whole article. There are beautiful men, and there are not
beautiful. There are polite and gallant gentlemen, and there are rude
zabuldygi. There are secured, and there are rogue. There are strong
and stately, and there are aspirations. In other words – James Bond or
ATуди BUTллены (а точнее его субтильные герои-лузеры). And you of course
want james bond. Especially considering that only James Bond
can compare with “your Andrew.” But the question arises: dreaming about
“Bond” – do you meet the criteria for “Bond girls”? Having received
such a question any girl will not hesitate for a second to answer –
“Of course!” But let’s deal with this.
Leaving behind the physical characteristics that are here
absolutely not important, pay attention to the most important secret
“Bond girls”. ATы знаете в чем он заключается? He is
(attention!) in the perfect combination of seductiveness and
unavailability!
Yes Yes! It is seductiveness. Since the time of the caveman
females always SORRY the males pushing them into mating fights with
other males or forcing the marriage dances without dancing.
Preserving its inaccessibility to the full completion of the marriage
dance
So all have nice, cute, but single women have
something in common. They forgot the word “temptation”. Forgot its essence and meaning.
The word “temptation” is not in their dictionary. No in their way of thinking and in their
behavior. And therefore – they are NOT seductive. And for this main
причине – в их арсенале норовящие познакомиться герои ATуди BUTллена,
which only spoil the mood on the way from work. By the way in
утешение можно упомянуть, что в знаменитой “ATикипедии”, которая
knows about everything in the world, the meaning of the word “temptation” is also
missing. Но не ATикипедии нужна счастливая семейная жизнь.
Therefore, she may not know anything about the temptation. And you – just
necessary.
So, let’s try to figure out what seductive is.
woman from the point of view of men. Fortunately men in this regard
arranged very primitive, because in their understanding of seductive
is any woman who looks sexy and almost
easily accessible. Here I will underline the word “almost”, as the most important,
because it is really very important to intuitively determine the line
which will make you already seductive, but not yet
easily accessible.
To the question: What kind of clothes make a woman seductive –
The answer is also very simple. Clothing that opens up and
emphasizes the most important parts of the female body, rather than hiding them.
Simply put – open clothes. To be properly understood and
at the same time prove that sexual can be not only
a short cocktail dress I will give two options everyday
clothes. On the left, the girl is dressed very stylishly and beautifully. On right –
sexually.
ATыбирая одежду для своего гардероба вы до сих пор делали выбор в
пользу стильной и красивой clothes. But now it’s time for a little
update it with short skirts, blouses with neckline, dresses with
cut outs and open backs and other seductive
things.
Needless to say that a new wardrobe is supposed to be a new wardrobe.
hairstyle, new manicure, makeup and handbag? I think here and so on
understandably. Of course all this is necessary. Is it necessary? Yes.
BUTбсолютно necessary. This is the first step to an ideal balance between
seductiveness and inaccessibility.
So the look is radically updated. ATы смотрите в зеркало и не
recognize yourself. ATозможно немного стесняетесь – но быстро привыкнете
see yourself “almost naked.” And soon you can even go to
the street and appear to colleagues and friends who of course will appreciate
Your appearance is appreciated, which will give you a lot of pleasant moments. AND
if you ask: how often do i need to be so seductive
to look like? The answer is always. ATам как и любой женщине всегда
you must look seductive. First to attract
a man And then – to keep him forever. Lucky for you
most women do not fully understand this. And you – understand.
What gives you an absolute advantage over all.
Now that your look is seductively irresistible – it’s not important
make gross behavioral mistakes common to many women.
The first mistake is when a woman with seductive clothes
as if putting on a mask of indifferent contempt for others.
It always repels men. What attracts? Light blush
embarrassment. He makes a woman absolutely irresistible and desirable in
eyes of every man. A half smile and a little embarrassed look
as if saying: “Well, I’m not guilty that I’m so tempting
look “acts on men like magnet. AND одновременно придает им
the confidence that is required to step up and try
impress you. AND затем заставляет его забыть обо
all matters so that even just a little bit to be near you. AND даже уходя
– mentally stay near you.
ATаш сексуальный внешний вид, манящая улыбка, стыдливый румянец –
and there is a temptation. This is your body language, which you attract to
men. AND если мужчина появился подле вас,значит первая часть
balance is respected. Now begins a difficult game in the process,
which you need to continue to kindle a desire in a man
while remaining inaccessible to him. But gradually promising this
availability at that moment when it seems to you that he might lose
patience. AT подтверждение этого “обещания” вы можете время от
time to give a man kisses, let hug and kiss you.
It must be done. Please remember that to “fully
impregnable fortresses “men quickly lose interest.
So your goal is to give your man all the promise
only when you fully feel that it is “yours forever.”
In order to get to know you better, then fall in love, and after that
to feel true love and affection – a man needs time. Yes
и вам самой это время разумеется necessary. But the bottom line is that all
this time you have to keep a man on his toes
interest in yourself including sexy outfits.
There is another important point. There are some
common clichés that say a woman is in communication with
a man must show his mind and shine with wit and almost
no talents to demonstrate. In fact, what really
it is necessary to be able to listen. Sometimes there is nothing more important than with
interested in hearing all that a man wants to tell you. About myself oh
about his exploits, about his unfolding family life, about
device dynamo-about anything. Each of us sometimes needs
listener. AND если вы можете вдоволь наговориться со своей подружкой
and cry it, then for a man, you can sometimes become
the only grateful listener of all that has accumulated in his
soul AND его благодарность за это не будет знать пределов. And his
attachment to you will grow as the burden from his soul
will subside. ATы спросите: а должна ли я выступать в роли
a psychotherapist? Yes, должны. Must listen attentively to him and
to console Just like a man should protect you, take care of
to indulge you with compliments and gifts. So roles are distributed in
relationship.
Yesже если что-то и не сложится и вы решите, что он не “ваш тип”,
then you can always (by mutual agreement) be friends.
Men-friends are always needed by every woman. They allow you to brighten
moments of loneliness, will assist and support in difficult situations.
Will serve as a vest in which you can cry during everyday life
disappointment.
Now let’s look at some practical issues
that you may have during this article.
Probably you want to ask: Is it possible to become stunning?
after 30? Yes. And after 40? Yes. And after 50? Of course, yes.
You can become seductive, regardless of age and physical
data.
ATорой вопрос: Куда отправляться в поисках мужчин обретя новый
seductive image?
Before everyone who wants to meet an intelligent clever –
sent to the library. However, before you specifically go
listen to the stories of your married girlfriends about where they are
found their husbands. AND вы быстро увидите каким непредсказуемым
way destiny brings people together and what unexpected meetings are.
If you look great and are ready for new relationships, then these
Relationships can occur at any time and anywhere. Before
the road to work, in the park when you walk the dog. AND даже в
Extreme Situations: You suddenly let the wheel down, and a passing
by the man decides to help and immediately falls in love with you.
But, if you wait for chance of fate – not in your character, I would
advised you to go where you can at any time
start a conversation with any man you like and look like
it is quite natural. Where is this possible? At the exhibition. AT
the museum. AT театре. At the concert. ATезде где окружающая реальность
pushes people to share impressions with each other. Where can
to speak with a person sitting or standing next to – and this (in contrast
say from the subway) will not be perceived with surprise. For example on
exhibition you can take along a camera to ask
the man you like to take a picture of you
exhibit. This is a great opportunity to start a conversation and
impress at the same time. AT театре между актами бывает
several intervals, which gives an excellent opportunity to share with that
who you liked your emotions about what he saw. At the same time before
the beginning of the presentation, you can catch someone with a look. AT первом
intermission to come closer and even speak. And in the second – you already
meet like old acquaintances.
Lots of opportunities to make new acquaintances (and
hence and relationships) provide various courses. Beginning
from English courses to roller skating
or snowboarding. ATезде где есть групповые занятия – участники группы,
as a rule, quickly get to know each other. ATы можете выбрать
courses that would not only be interesting for you for self-development, but
and such where there are more men than women. So you immediately
find yourself in the spotlight.
It is well known that a great opportunity for dating are
trips to resorts. However, experience shows that much more
high is the probability of spinning an affair with a man there
living on the other side of our immense country and then tormented
love at a distance until it is completely extinct.
Bars, night clubs, restaurants – absolutely the wrong place to
dating since a seductively dressed woman in them always
may be mistaken for a girl of easy virtue. And men who
visit such places – they are not needed for nothing.
As for dating sites … everything is ambiguous. Opinions
about them vary greatly. On the one hand, such sites
seem to be a haven for desperate and perverts. With another –
I personally know four happy married couples who found each other
using the internet. Therefore, observing reasonable
forethought – it is possible to meet someone in
the internet. In addition, the Internet provides an excellent opportunity for
Pleased to communicate with the person before deciding on
meeting with him.
AND еще одной возможностью завести новые знакомства являются
parties, gatherings, trips, weddings, corporate parties, birthdays and
other activities for which there are many guests. Not
should sit in front of the TV if you know that today
somewhere they are having fun, and you are on the guest list. ATам надо быть
where there is fun, even if you have known all the guests for a long time.
Fate always surprises.
ANDтак, давайте подведем итоги.
In order to gain family happiness you need:
ATо-первых, покончить со всеми безответными,
unsatisfactory relations existing for the most part in
your head and creating deceptive illusions. They are a barrier on the way
to a real and happy relationship.
ATо-вторых, осознать важность фактора соблазнения и привести свой
appearance in full compliance.
AT-третьих, психологически быть готовой к тому, что новые
Relationships can occur at any time, anywhere. BUT
if you want to increase their likelihood of diversifying their lives
cultural and educational activities.
AT-четвертых, не отвергать новых появившихся в вашей жизни мужчин
immediately “from the doorway”. Notобходимо давать мужчинам шанс проявить
yourself
AND в пятых, что самое главное – играя и соблазняя вы должны
remain inaccessible to the desired man until
together do not realize that your relationship – forever.
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Comments
Natalya 12/13/2016 Good article, and the author is right, we always forget
stay seductive. Thanks for the article. Catherine 12/10/2016
Статья очень хорошая.AND всё в ней правильно.Её поймёт только тот,кто
and really felt it. Thanks to the author. 5 + !!!!! Julia 11/23/2016
Of course, it is always difficult to find your destiny, but in an acquaintance club
The classic relationship was lucky and I managed to meet my husband.
Блу 17.11.2016 Какой козел это написал Мой ANDдеал 12.11.2016 ATыбери
out of dozens of men several of the most suitable for you
and focus on them, sifting out the rest.
