Wed, Sep 10, 2014
It is unlikely that any conscientious person will be able to refuse the request.
to his colleague, friend, and even more so, the boss. And even
authoritarian, tough individual is never shy to say
�”not”. In most of these cases, consent is completely nasty.
nature, but pity, respect for the suppliant, finally weakness
character lead to promises that sometimes … completely
impracticable. Do not give promises and say “yes” if there is
doubts that they will be met. However, many of us
yielding to the moment of weakness, they buy a completely unnecessary product
just because the seller caused sympathy or has the gift
persuade. «Научитесь убедительно говорить �”not”. This is one of
the most necessary skills in the world; your life will be ceaseless
torment until you learn to issue such an answer without
hesitation and a categorical tone … “- said Bernard Shaw. The reasons,
for which we do not dare to say no, there may be, besides
specified, and others. But be that as it may, timidity and
indecision, delicacy and softness of character violate
mental balance and sometimes cause a breakdown like yours
– a person who has not fulfilled the promise, and the one who hoped for
your help. Bound by the word “yes”, you feel that your personal
space is violated, interests are infringed, but the problem is still needed
decide not to pass for the optional, irresponsible
by man. Sometimes the inability to say “no” leads to mass
additional problems and stressful moods. �”Refuse
in a firm tone, without any doubt, but first everything
think over. It’s better to say no at once than by giving a yes, through
some time to refuse the word “, – said in one textbook for
psychological universities. Psychologists have developed step by step instructions
for such indecisive people who can not squeeze out
из себя это самое слово �”not”. First you need several times firmly
say to yourself: “No, I will not do that.” When these
words will become familiar to you, refer to them already to whom
forced to refuse the request. In this case, the refusal should be clearly
argued, your entire appearance and even posture should demonstrate
determination and confidence in their position. Sometimes you can ask
Forgiveness, but in most cases it is not worth doing. Completely
It is possible that the other person will convince you, insist, and then
the main thing is to stick to what was said earlier and not to succumb to weakness.
It is best to say the same phrase, for example,
�“I understood you, but I cannot do this for reasons o
who have already said “
or
�“I enter your position”, but it’s not to help
can”.
Such a refusal is less offensive to the supplicant than just a word.
�”not”. Do not enter into verbal battles, especially if you know your
weakness – in the end you can be persuaded to do what
absolutely do not want to. Not quite right to those who
seeks to earn a reputation as a sort of shirt guy
reliable and always ready to help, sometimes
forgetting about their own interests. What makes many of us
go on about the bosses, colleagues, friends? If in the first case
This is an elementary reluctance to anger the boss, then in the other two
The reasons may be different. For example, low self-esteem,
established since childhood and most often imposed by parents.
It seems to man that he himself means nothing in his eyes
others, but if it is to the right and left to give out promises and
tirelessly doing them, that’s when … Is it any wonder that by
others get used to it and stop
reckon with trouble-free? Intelligence, an example of parents not
позволяют отказать в ночлеге or даже довольно длительном
Living at least an unfamiliar person, even a friend. If conditions
allow and such a society like the owner – then all would be nothing, but
often in a different way … then politely but firmly
refuse – the best way.
