Fri 05 Jun 2015 It’s not always the decision to get marriedrationally and the choice of a partner is made correctly, but there are factors and
actions that can destroy even the strongest and
good relationship. For the integrity of the family are responsible
two people, but the woman herself can do something to
ruin the marriage.
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1. Criticize and carp
Want to make family life unbearable for your husband?
Criticize and carp at every occasion. Of course the momentary
you will not get a divorce, but eventually you will achieve that spouse
from one your voice will juggle. Loving man can
forgive an unshriven shirt or a scorched scrambled egg, but criticism and
nagging – never. Moreover, he will remember your every word and
will keep it in my head all my life. Subsequently, the effect
snowball.
The wife of the great writer Leo Tolstoy before his death
admitted that eternal criticism, complaints and nagging killed
of her husband Unfortunately, she realized it too late.
Initially, it was a happy couple, having everything you need for
cloudless, prosperous life. Countess Tolstaya loved and
supported spouse, but over time, everything changed. She made them
life together is unbearable. Already in old age (82 years),
after 48 years of marriage, Tolstoy fled from his wife
and its attacks. After 11 days he died of pneumonia, and his
the last request was – not to allow his wife to him.
Perhaps every woman has reason for cavils and complaints,
But is it possible to achieve something with their help?
2. Settle under the same roof with a caring mom
It doesn’t matter whose mother it is, as long as she is
�”Thoughtful”. And life with the mother-in-law is generally a gift of fate for
any man. She will notice all the blunders and shortcomings of her son-in-law and
open my daughter’s eyes on the villain. Your spouse will stay away from you
earlier than Leo Tolstoy from his wife, so stay with your mother and
go for it!
You can not blame all moms, but adequate fair mother-in-law – this
exception rather than rule. Of course, parents need to appreciate
love and respect, but you can’t let them take over your own
by life. And living with them under the same roof, to observe any
border is almost impossible.
In general, the practice proves the further the mother is, the stronger
marriage.
3. Expel your husband from home regularly
And someday he will leave. Negative consequences
of this you may begin to realize later when correct
the situation will be impossible or at least extremely difficult.
You will have to take the initiative and make incredible efforts.
to reverse the process. What can be regarded by your
spouse, as a manifestation of weakness on your part. And give
opportunity to manipulate you in the future! So you better not dig
his own pit with his own tongue.
4. Cast everything on yourself and do not strain your husband
A woman should take care of herself, husband, children, fine
cook, be housekeeping, keep the house clean, walk on
work, be touched by “computer” cups and scattered socks
her husband, to be always interesting to him and not burden with requests.
If you want to destroy your family, then save the man from
responsibility at home and to children. Bye after intense
working day you lightning fly home to check out the lessons with children
and do all the housework, your husband in the evenings toil without
affairs
A man gets used to such a relationship and begins to see in his
wife servant. Over time, do not give flowers for women’s holiday
it will become the norm for him – because the servants do not put flowers,
will cost. All this a woman creates with her own hands, soothing herself
that is the female share. Overloaded monotonous home
work, she becomes tired, irritable, begins
carp. Of course, she has neither strength nor love to love
desires.
In order not to turn into an evil, displeased aunt, do not engage
domestic heroism, and share the duties in half with your spouse.
5. Jealous and not trust
At first it may even amuse and whip a man, but
not for long. The more distrust and persecution of women, the more
thoughtful becomes the deception of her husband. Jealousy annoying
tires, kills love and destroys relationships.
Napoleon III was proud to marry
the most beautiful woman. Power, state, beauty, youth,
the adoration of a beloved man – what more could his spouse want
Eugenia? She plagued him with jealousy, blamed and threatened. Waiting for
catch husband with mistress, burst into his office when he was
busy with government affairs. The first man in the state could not
find places to hide from your pursuer. Wife
Emperor has achieved her. Napoleon did become secretly
leave the palace and visit the beautiful ladies.
With scenes of jealousy, a woman only pushes her husband to
treason
6. Retrain
The surest way to stay “at the broken trough” is
to re-husband. First, you risk becoming his mom, and
respectively stop interested in him as a woman. Secondly,
every person is a free person. Subordinate someone to your will
not easy at all. And the harder you push, the stronger
there will be resistance. The more active your attempts are, the more often you will
You will hear: “You knew who you were marrying, that now
do you want Do not like it – look for another! “And it is quite possible that
�“Re-educate” him, but reaping the benefits of your efforts
other, less demanding persons.
So it is better to proceed from the axiom that a man does not alter. BUT
if, nevertheless, decide to do this – do everything rationally, that is,
very neat and discreet.
7. Be cold in intimate relationships.
The coldness of a woman is what will eventually unfold
a man at 180 degrees. At first, he will blame himself and seek
reciprocity by all means. Then, if it becomes clear that everything
it’s useless, he will have complexes and a desire to prove himself
imagine that he is not so bad. It’s not always my fault
spouse, but there is a psychological type of Cold Woman,
who was described by the American psychiatrist Eric Bern with the help of a child
an example. The girl asks her admirer to make her a cake out of
sand, the boy fulfills her request, expecting to receive praise. AT
answer she pushes him away and instead of warm words he hears that
got dirty and became terribly dirty. A trivial example illustrates
how the family can be replaced by physical proximity to
perverted psychological. Playing with a man, a cold woman is already
gets pleasure, so in intimate relationships with her spouse she
does not need.
Есть масса других способов разрушить свой marriage. ATедь ломать
much easier than creating and building. A strong family is
continuous, sometimes hard work of two people on themselves and
relationship.
