Tue, Nov 11, 2014
Unfortunately, the inspiring feeling of love is not forever.
Gradually, feelings are dulled, a loved one does not care, so
as before, passion passes and cooling begins. For those, who
does not want to put up with this state of affairs and is ready to work hard to
to revive the former urgency of relations, we will open the secret and tell you
what are the secrets of saving relationships.
Secret 1. Appreciate the memories
The easiest way to refresh the memory of the reasons why
You chose this particular person – mentally return to the past.
Connect figurative memory, remember those feelings that woke up
your lover with your presence. Try to survive again
sensations from his touch, first date, kiss. According to
professionals, such sensations are psychological anchors,
which may be your favorite melody,
places where your exciting dates took place.
Unfortunately, it is not possible to resurrect the past, but these
memories will allow you to once again experience what you have experienced
earlier. Stay together, go somewhere together, look
General photos and together think about what today you do not
enough in a relationship.
Secret 2. It is what it is. And this is great!
Psychologists are advised to accept each other as you are, with
all your shortcomings, zamorochkami, annoying habits.
After all, everyone understands that people without flaws simply do not exist.
In the initial stages of love, leveling it all out, you can even
say blinds. However, gradual addiction, everyday
life opens its eyes to a partner, begins to emphasize what
previously did not even pay attention. Scattered socks or
slurping out of a cup doesn’t seem sweet anymore, gradually what
caused a smile and an attack of tenderness goes away, put up with annoying
moments getting harder.
Happy relationships are formed only when we are not
We only know about the bad qualities of our partner, but we are ready to
accept them. You say it is difficult? Maybe. However, there are ways
do it. For example, talk to a loved one about what causes
you annoyance But remember – it should be done delicately, without offending
partner. Tell me what you really appreciate and for much
grateful, but there is something that can be changed for the better.
Psychologists are confident that this approach will allow you on the one hand
show your love, but on the other – not to cause discontent
partner.
Secret 3. Do not stand still. Creative!
It is impossible to live in the past, no matter how good it is. Is coming
insight and reality ruin everything: life takes a lot of energy and
feelings are gradually dulled. Gradually, there is a need
in novelty, new emotional experiences. Therefore, experts
recommend to invent and implement pleasant for both
event partners.
Nobody says that attempts will be exactly like
was drawn in imagination. But, you see, something better is better.
try to do than throw up your hands, watch how relationships
finally get rid of themselves.
Curious, but after divorce, many former spouses begin
nostalgic about the past, recalling communication, warmth and care,
which they gave their half. Try to understand the absence
what your favorite would make you sad. Perhaps it
will be the main to restore the relationship. Already more serious and
stable.
Secret 4. Change
Nostalgic about past feelings, we tend to feel like
those people whom, alas, is no longer. Although, curiously,
we are dissatisfied with what is happening here and now. Unfortunately not
one can always clearly understand how during the life of a relationship
changed the people themselves in a pair. Growing up must be accompanied and
the emergence of wisdom, an essential element of a full-fledged adult
life without which we would still be infantile
by teenagers. Remember that the ones you are now are partly
заслуга и вашего partner.
Secret 5. Miss
How long have you missed each other? Anxiously awaited the meeting,
every minute waiting for a phone call? Today it is quite difficult:
sms and social networks have created not only the illusion of full communication, but also
real presence. However, separation is necessary. She is refreshing
feelings, makes them more acute. So talk to each other.
friend only when there is a strong need for something
to share. Psychologists say: to be closer, sometimes you need
be a little further from each other.
