Today I will share with you experience on how to put your baby to bed without tears, I’ll tell you how to teach a child to sleep in his own nursery crib, not in the parent.
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Why do children cry before going to bed?
There are two main reasons:
- The first is when the child just misses you. And when he sees you, he turns on the second wind, despite the fact how much he puts him to sleep. He will run, ride, will require your attention.
- The second reason is when you decided that he should go to sleep, and the biological clock says the opposite.
What to do if a child is bored?
If you determined that your child missed you, be sure to pay attention to him, even if you have this evening there were other plans.
Set aside everything, hug him, ask what he would like to do. You have to make him feel that at this moment you are completely dedicated to him.
If you don’t give the child all the attention that he asks, then he will receive it anyway in a way that he has mastered well: he will endlessly run to the toilet, ask for a drink, eat, ask you in your arms, will cry, whimper, say that he scared to throw out the light.
In the process of this interaction, he will receive your attention, but the process of laying down to sleep will stretch several times.
Give him all your attention so that he calmly asleep.
How to understand that it’s time to bed?
If your child’s biological clock says at 9 o’clock it’s too early for him to sleep, then your main task as a parent is to understand schedule of these hours.
Do not believe the books that say that the child needs to be laid at exactly 9 o’clock or at 8. Observe the child, track the peak and decline in activity.
In young children, this is very noticeable: he starts to stagger when walking, rubs his eyes, shows less interest in toys.
At this point, you can pick it up, lull him and lay him down sleep. If the child is older, then find that moment activity, when he began to run around the apartment more slowly, became quieter speak.
And here it is very important not to interrupt him. If you really If you think you need to brush your teeth, then do it with him.
Often, parents begin to act before bedtime according to plan: change into pajamas, brush your teeth. With this approach, the child activity often returns.
And when it’s time for him to sleep, he is again at the peak activity, and it’s impossible to lay it down.
Sometimes it makes sense to redeem it in advance, change clothes, and then give the opportunity to play, to catch the decline in activity, to catch it and transfer to the bedroom.
And there you can already read, hug, stay with him as much as need to. Then he will fall asleep calmly and joyfully.
Joint dream. Good or bad?
Another problem parents often face is the desire of parents to shift the child out of their parental bed in his separate crib.
There are many opinions on this subject: someone says that you need to immediately lay the children separately, someone says that you can sleep with children only in early childhood, others, on the contrary, claim that sharing sleep is very beneficial.
I think the following: from the moment of conception our children are within us. And they are used to warmth, to a certain temperature regime, to a sense of security and security. And it’s absolutely natural that after birth the child falls into the same atmosphere, in the depths of a hug where temperatures are higher than if he slept separately.
Parents breath, heartbeat give him that feeling security. All of this is crucial for it to form. healthy, confident person.
How old can I sleep with a baby?
There are 2 main criteria:
- The first is a mutual comfortable feeling for both you and your a child. If you feel annoyed that got 100 hits, as it was with me, then it’s time go to different beds. Even if the child is only year.
- And the second criterion is age limits. If you sleep with a child of the same sex to 10-11 years, then this is basically fine.
But if we consider a dream with a child of the opposite sex, then 8 years is the limit.
Otherwise, it will be like sleeping adults in the same bed, it will not have a beneficial effect on further healthy development a child.
How to explain to the child that you need to sleep separately?
Be always honest with your child. If you decide that he it’s disturbing you to sleep, so tell him that you’re just not get enough sleep and love him too much to be annoyed by in the morning.
And it’s better if he has loving calm parents than evil and annoyed.
If you can’t sleep based on age criteria, then too just say that the time has come that he is now an adult.
To make the transfer process in his crib as soft as possible there are rules that I will share now.
How to transfer a child to a separate bed?
It’s not enough to understand that the time has come to shift the child into his crib, you still need to be aware.
How to do it right so that this process goes as far as possible softly for both you and your child:
- The child will not be glad that it’s time to go to another bed. Get ready for it.
- Be persistent. If you decide that moment arrived, then do not break, as if your child did not persuade one more night. Persistence is very important here: consistently implement your plans.
- Be friendly. This is one of the most important points. Stay kind to your children. How many times they didn’t wake up during the night, you need to smile, hug him and take in his crib or carry on his hands.
- Calm the child if he has already woken up and came to you, and you need to take it, then you need some time be sure to stay with him until you make sure he is calm asleep. And only after that return back to your bed.
- Use an interesting decor for a children’s room. Detailed You can find a description here.
And it’s also very important to remember that we are all different. To someone it will take 2-3 days to get used to calmly fall asleep in your crib.
And for other children, a month or two is a normal period.
I have vast experience communicating with children and their parents: more than 10,000 children with different characters from different families.
And fit all this huge experience with them in 5 minutes just impossible.
See you soon!
