Sat, 01 Feb 2014
In our society, a lot of irritated, dissatisfied with life
people who think they will be happy if someone
will do badly (in spite). How often can you hear that a woman
changed her husband in spite, and now she feels very bad.
Or a crying girlfriend comes to visit and tells her that
boyfriend cheated on her and now she has a plan for revenge.
Why does a man need revenge and what can it lead to?
From a psychological point of view, revenge is the desire to cause
human tangible harm.
Revenge can both the representatives of the stronger sex, and female
part of the population. But more insidious and accurate plans for revenge are bearing
woman and is able to bring this plan to the end.
More often women take revenge on their lovers who insult them,
changed, betrayed.
По рассказам одной женщины: «Я вышла замуж назло бывшему
boyfriend, because he started dating my girlfriend. I live with
My husband is 20 years old, we have children, but I am unhappy in a family
of life. And just now I realize that I myself doomed myself to
misfortune. And I still wonder how my ex’s
возлюбленного».
Building relationships out of tune, we punish the person
who loved. But loved ones do not want to do evil. Turns out in
revenge we start from our own selfishness and vanity.
There is an energy law: “Everything that we do from evil and
evil, we return with double force. ” There is not a single case to
the man who committed revenge was happy and completely satisfied
the result.
When we do something out of spite or revenge, our
selfishness
From the fact that we implement a thought-out plan for revenge, it is not easier
will be anyone. You need to be able to own your emotions and ask
Question to yourself: “What drives me in this situation: overflowing
feelings of resentment and malice or public opinion that dictates that
infidels need to be punished? “
What do we want from revenge?
- Signs of attention. Let’s say we get them. But this is a solicited,
requested signs of attention. They are not real.
- Satisfaction. Maybe for a while. But often from a woman
you can hear that she changed out of spite to her lover with
first counter, and then two days drowned alcohol
memories of unpleasant intimacy. And where
satisfaction?
You changed spite and think that this way you can return
love your loved one? This is self-deception, you will not get
satisfaction from the fact that you are even in betrayal.
He pays no attention to you, which is why you are so ill yourself
lead – spite him? This is stupid. Such revenge will not lead to anything
good
Before you start revenge, look at the half step ahead.
Let’s say you got your revenge. Now look at the result. You messed up
life to your spouse, you ruined the life of his mistress. Who is from
will it be happy? Husband can hardly stop loving mistress and
love you On the contrary, he will be afraid of you and will probably want to
breake down. Bottom line: revenge, you did bad not only to others
people, but most of all myself.
When you revenge in spite, you revenge yourself, you revenge those around you
people and avenge your reputation.
Centuries-old wisdom says: “If you want revenge on a person,
be happy without him. ” You can often hear: “I have nothing
committed, but he began to suffer ”or“ I did not do anything, but
some unknown force punishes everyone who offended me. ” Those who
they offend us, they will be doubly punished if they see that we are happy
and do not pay attention to their actions.
