Fri, 05 Jun 2015 Usually women are completely concerned about the questionthe opposite: why do men leave? Rather, they voice it
more often. Because asking: why doesn’t he leave that year
wife, which, in his own words, can not stand and with which all
this time does not sleep – “indecent.”
It is believed that everything related to the preservation of the family –
sacredly Conversely, the woman who caused the collapse of the “cell”
society, will in this society be considered a priori outcast. �”On
you cannot build happiness in another’s misfortune “- this nonsense long ago became
common truth.
Why do people who have a persistent aversion to each other do not
transferring the tastes and interests of the other, people, communication between which
comes down to solving inevitable everyday issues and constant
squabbles, must live together and be called family? But such families
not just a lot, but terrifying a lot.
A life проходит впустую, рядом с человеком, которого ты не просто
do not love, and often can not tolerate. What to stay for
together?
The most common answer is for children. And what does it mean?
Yes, you can accept such a reason, when the child is very small –
growing it yourself is too hard. And when he realizes that
what’s happening? And sees that the relationship between the parents, if not
enemy, then, at best, indifferently hostile. And for
what does he need it? To accept both rate and pattern for
imitation?
No, from the point of view of a woman, everything can be explained. First of all,
women are really afraid of loneliness, afraid to stay
lonely. Secondly, it is completely unknown how a former spouse
will treat his son or daughter, will he help with money?
Thirdly, a woman divorced is considered to be “abandoned.” There are and
fourth, and fifth, and even tenth.
And men? If he thinks he loves another, if he has any
leave? Why not leave?
Probably, there is no such statistics, how many women were waiting for such
�”Constantly moving” men. And waited more than one year. At first the children were
small, then they had to finish school, go to
the institute. Or another option – “sick” wife. Sick in quotes
Do you understand why? Or any other reason, but be sure
noble. We are still trying to turn the meanness into
nobility, in sacrifice. �“It’s so hard for me … she’s me
does not understand at all … we are strangers … “Yes, and obligatory – we are with her
do not sleep.
Women, answer, how can you believe in such nonsense? Well,
ok if this is said once. But you manage to believe
for years! For years !!!! And it is convenient for him. Almost any
relationships are built not so much on what we feel for
partner, how much is that at the same time feel themselves to themselves. And you
he is given the opportunity to feel not only smart and
attractive but noble. Even when the nobility
fictional.
And after that you will ask – when will he take at least
something to make you and yourself happy? Are you sure
What does this want?
But, honestly speaking, we are afraid. Whatever macho from
themselves are not depicted by men, they are all without exception cowards.
Cowardly with respect to change that we cannot influence. And,
the older we get, the smarter, the more cowardly.
You know, what thought lives constantly in the head of a man, standing
before such a choice? What if ETA is the same or worse than
TA?
All this is wonderful when you still do not know what life is.
with another person. When all dreams are pink, you are on vacation
send only two, and certainly somewhere in the Maldives,
and the wife is a sensitive, understanding your views, a man who is only
will try to make your life more beautiful.
And it’s quite another thing when you have experience, when you know
that literally the day after the wedding can be seen completely
another person. And you think – and what will happen with this with
time? It is not by chance that now you are so indifferent to THAT
which is already? Then what’s the point to change quite convenient
position with the already familiar way of life and the severity of relations on the side,
to something that will not have this sharpness, but it is quite possible that
something is no better (or worse) than the current squabbles and
bored life?
And there, behind your back will be what you at least
used to, but what awaits ahead? Habits have to change again
will have to completely revise their lives. Let it be boring, but
become so familiar …
And this is the second main reason why we are so often
We are holding on to the old, even if we are in it really bad. we
afraid again. We are afraid of the new.
If in a career or business men can be creative, then in
Everyday life we are very conservative. We are scared (and lazy, to be honest)
rebuild yourself But you have to. Especially in this
most likely, we will be forced to accept the terms of the new
women. By the way, this is why a man, unlike a woman,
easier to go nowhere than to someone. Well, what’s the point of running from one
to something that is likely to become the same?
And it is mandatory decides that we should
�”Change”, adjust to some fictional picture, at least in
little things, at least in something serious. we же знаем, что обычно женщина
is compliant and pliable only until she gets
desired But then the principles come into force: where is it now
going to go?
I reread the written and understand – yes, everything is correct. Right,
but … only not when you meet the person with whom you
you want to be despite all those thoughts that will still be. AND
then this man is really yours. And the one you sometimes
almost hate – definitely not yours. AND приходит понимание, что ни
cowardice or fear of change are not the years that you live in
emotional emptiness in which the only thing that remains
holding two people together – a stamp in the passport.
I know what I’m talking about, because I went through all this myself.
As usual, we sat in “our” cafe and drank traditional coffee with
cognac. And I shyly averted my eyes and repeated the regular phrases with
on duty excuses. AND о том, что не могу оставить сына, и еще о
something But it turned out to be much stronger: “I have been waiting for this for a long time.
AND единственная просьба — подари мне неделю». This week we
their cities left. AND было все хорошо, хорошо так, что я стал
think, and to the place whether all these fears?
And six months later, on my birthday, she came with her husband –
almost immediately after our separation I got married. AND я ее
was jealous.
And even later we found each other’s phones in different countries and
talked for hours. And I still could not understand whether I am trying
to justify myself for cowardice, or I didn’t love her so much.
