Thu, Feb 18, 2016
The virtual world is called the vast expanses of the Internet. But on
today the virtual and real worlds are so intertwined
among themselves that sometimes it’s already difficult to determine where
business Take dating. Previously, another 15-20 years ago, where
met young people? At discos, bars, training
institutions, libraries (yes, yes!). And now it becomes more and more
followers of dating through the Internet. Numerous sites
dating, social networks, messaging programs in
real-time (icq, skype) have become the place where people go,
to find friends, lovers, spouses.
What makes virtual acquaintance so attractive? As they say active
seekers of their virtual halves get acquainted via the Internet
simpler: “You lie on a comfortable sofa, look through the photos, if
someone will be interested, you can write whatever you want. Such
communication is easy for even the most shy, who in real life
life will never be able to approach the person you like and
become acquainted”. There is an opportunity with all the wealth of choice
find the most liked (by external data) partner. Then
begins correspondence. Indeed, you can write all that
anything you like: tell the best about yourself, even if it’s not quite
true. Internet communication is more frank than real: not everyone
will be able to say something personal and intimate to the partner, but
write on the screen is much easier. People lose their communication skills
face to face, everyone is so used to using for these purposes
convenient intermediary – computer screen, phone, ipeda,
tablet …
Another important fact is that men and women aimed at
career and working almost day and night, there is no time to go
go somewhere and look for your happiness in real life. For them, the Internet
becomes the only opportunity to meet
representatives of the opposite sex.
Get acquainted, this is understandable, but what about love? Is it possible
to find in the boundless networks of the Internet? The people interviewed were divided into
two camps – those who believe in virtual love and those who are her
categorically denies. The opponents of virtual love bring their
arguments
Ирина 27 лет, менеджер: «Ну, это все фигня. There
everything is not real, starting with how a person describes himself as
positioning. Attentive person after some time will be able to
easily catch all inconsistencies. Go there are those who are not in real
realized himself, who, well, maybe not complexes, but certain
there are troubles.
Алина 31 год, домохозяйка: «Я не уверена, что
virtual love is happy and marriages are so durable. After all
virtuality is no substitute for real communication, everyday
problems that you will not notice through the computer. My two friends
married an acquaintance through a social network. So they have a crisis
already there. One couple – he is in France, she is in Moscow. there is
a child, but they still live in different countries. She could not quit
his parents, he is his job. So they continue to communicate in
mainly via the internet. I do not know how long this marriage will last …
In general, it seems to me that through a virtual acquaintance, you can easily
to run into a “zhenatika” with a bunch of children who just decided
have some fun. “
Лариса 32 года, домохозяйка: «Я бы, честно
I say, did not meet through the Internet. Who knows who you
is writing? Maybe not a boy at all. And the picture can be what you want
to put. You think: you correspond with the macho, and this is Vasya
faces, no figures.
Инга 42 года, учитель: «Виртуальный роман,
Of course, maybe … And there are examples of friends: it all began with
simple correspondence, and ended the wedding. But not always good
end, sometimes broken hearts. After all, все равно, общение вживую,
much more can tell about a person, show his true
face. And, therefore, the relationship is built stronger when communicating not
virtual and real. “
Supporters of virtual love are not afraid of possible difficulties with
connected with it, and confidently storm the Internet in search of
these relationships. And there are no obstacles for searching – local network
allows you to look into any corner of the Earth: from the next street to
country located in the other side of the world. Whatever they say
opponents of online dating, and today there are more and more virtual
novels that grow into real and quite successful
marriage
Анна 28 лет, домохозяйка: «Моя подруга
met through the Internet with her future husband. First they
corresponded, just chatted for a long time in the network. Then
I saw each other in real life, began to meet, then live together. Now have
their son is growing. A friend is older than her husband by 12 years, but this is not
prevents them from being happy! ”
Люда 32 года, менеджер по туризму: «У меня было
virtual acquaintance on the forum of interest. This acquaintance
escalated into a relationship that ended three years later
unsuccessful pregnancy and complete rupture. But on момент, когда это
it began, and for my part there was a 100% passion for this,
as yet an unfamiliar person – I am clearly I remember one moment (when
we did not match the graphics), he left the house – from ICQ – at 10
in the morning, and I just came to work at 10 in the morning. So, to
chat with him on ICQ in the morning I began to come to work to
9-00, what really surprised colleagues. In general, in this communication in the network
– there is something … You don’t know and see a person, but you
interesting are his thoughts, judgments, statements. Then, спустя какое-то
virtual communication time, he sends you a photo and you jump
from delight, even though he is not very tall and blond hair, but you always
liked slender tall brunette. Just for this time of communication, he
you already like the whole and his appearance is also somehow in advance
like. Well, I did not end up with a happy wedding and
children, but the relationship experience was good. ”
You can virtually get acquainted in various ways.
Some even manage to make acquaintance via SMS,
which then quite safely leads to the wedding. Do not stay
forgotten and special dating sites. Here you can also meet
as a partner for a few nights, and half for a lifetime.
Валерия 33 года, психолог: «Моя знакомая, ей 30
years, goes to a dating site to meet men for
sex She motivates this by not getting to know the subway! She is
was married, but divorced, have a daughter. Disappointed in marriage she
no longer wants any commitment. She is only interested
romance and love feeling. Dating websites
suitable for these purposes as well as possible. “
Катерина 30 лет, менеджер: «Я познакомилась с
Oleg two years ago on a dating site. I still lived in another
city, and he – in Moscow. At first, we were set up just to flirt,
but then everything became serious. The result – in April, we have a wedding. Although
no one expected this of us. ”
Of course, failures and frustration often occur. But they are easy
may be with a partner whom you will meet in real life.
From mistakes, no one anywhere is immune. One of my friends (very
good, good guy) from the photos I liked the girl from
social network. He is 30, she is 22. Despite the fact that she lives in
another country, they corresponded for a long time, often communicated by phone
(Can you imagine what bills came for half an hour
talk on your mobile!). In the end, he decided to go to
with very serious intentions. But after talking with the girl
live, my friend is very disappointed. In fact, his beloved
turned out to be not a soft and docile homely girl, but an overbearing and
proud woman. Heartbroken, a friend returned home. But he
not desperate, but again launched into a virtual search for his second
halves.
If suddenly someone “knocks” to you, do not ignore him, but
all of a sudden, this is the beginning of a virtual novel that can grow into
real love for life.
Comments
kivgosha 10/23/2016 Love in the network can be found, I say this about
own experience. I met my wife on the internet and after
half-year correspondence, took her to him, we live for more than 4 years and
we have 2 year old daughter. There are plenty of crooks in the network, but there are also
normal people looking for their love.
