Mistress – pregnant! How to savefamily …

Every woman, getting married, dreams of a happy family, to be
beloved and sole. Years go by, delays life, love
passes, spouses move away, women find themselves in children, men
coming up with a hobby, getting mistresses. The story is as old as the world. Good
if a man “goes up and returns”, and if his new passion
decided to take him out of the family?

No matter what goals she pursues, she will work well in life, but
maybe this is her last chance not to grow old alone
it’s really love, your seed boat goes down and needs,
do something about it.

Here is the story of Irina 39 years old, married 18 years old, brings up
daughter is 17 years old.

�“Exactly two years ago, on February 14, my husband confessed that he had
there is a mistress and she is expecting a child. Mistress was his ex
secretary The novel they had a few years after her husband changed
place of work and we hiccup live in another city, the relationship stopped
for some time. Then a new romance broke out, already virtual, they
chatted on Skype. Several times he flew to her, she came to
him when my daughter and I were going to rest. Upon learning of pregnancy, I
said let her have an abortion, but it turned out she already had an abortion
a couple of months ago and now decided to give birth “for myself”, she is already 30 years old
far further pull. With my husband, we decided that we would live together until
the daughter will not finish school, and he will help her with money. In that
time I was just on the verge of collapse, a foreign city, no friends, work
by specialty it did not work out. It was all hysterical,
chopped clothes her husband calls her mistress with threats, alcohol.
A month later, I realized that from all this only worse, you need something
do i have 2 years! I turned to a psychologist. To me
4 sessions were enough to bring thoughts in order and start
act, my chances of preserving family specialist assessed
80Х20 … “

Irina took the first step to save her family, turned to
Specialist, of course, in each case, the approaches and methods of salvation
are individual, but there are basic principles, which will be discussed in
our article.

That in no case can not do:

– Tell your friends and family about your problems, let them
will be your secret, skeleton in the closet and do not try to influence
husband through other people, this you just alienate him from yourself.
I want to share and cry, go to church for confession,
Pour your pain on the Internet, there are a bunch of forums where with pleasure
you will be listened to and even given a couple of not always good advice.

– Do not look for contact with his mistress, no good
will lead – it just makes no sense. And for you it is superfluous
stress.

What should be done?

Remember the rule – men do not like problems! If a man
problems in the family he goes to his mistress, problems with his mistress he
leaves and from his mistress. You ask what problems may have
mistresses? Child. You only need to wait a bit, believe me, with
child birth will change a lot. Well by this time you should
prepare and what we need to do:

1) Reject all emotions, look at the situation from the side. Everything
it has already happened and you cannot change anything in the past. To the question who
blame for yourself, answer – both. The hardest thing to cope with
emotions, heartache. Drop insults, why spend on them
time is needed, live and move on.

2) We start working on ourselves. It is difficult, but it must be done.
Scroll through the old albums you were when you met,
what was your hairstyle, makeup. Your husband loved you like that
try to get that image back. You should always look at
the top five. Do not have any bathrobes at home, buy yourself a comfortable home
clothes Go in for sports, go on a diet, go to the beautician.
Act – it helps you switch and get charged
positive emotions.

3) Look critically at your family nest. In your
the house should be comfortable, clean. Rearrange, buy flowers,
Arrange the frames with your photos.

4) Think about what your husband is interested in, what is his hobby.
Learn more about his interests. Plan a joint vacation, nor
What is special, just ask you to take a walk in the park, go
in the cafe, drink coffee, chat about anything, talk about his hobby,
weather, common friends. Try to be a husband at first
just a friend. Do not ask him not convenient questions remember with you
should be comfortable.

5) Does your family have traditions? Not? Think of them, it can be
Friday dinner together, a picnic trip with friends or just
evening tea with herbs, the main thing that would cause positive
emotions. And maybe a joint sports hobby!

6) Do not be offended if your husband will not reciprocate
or just do not notice your efforts, generally forget what is
insult. You love flowers for the fact that they simply are, do not require
from them in return or anything.

7) Try to do everything with a smile and love, wash, iron and
wash the dishes. Look at all the pros. Answer the question how are you?
FINE. Infect your circle with your positivity and see how
the world is changing.

Last and probably the hardest, but it is very important
the moment you should have an intimate relationship with your husband, to put it simply
sex. How to achieve this, in each case individually, not
men themselves do not mind, others strongly oppose, believing that
you are just friends. One woman, for example, said that her sex
prescribed a gynecologist as a cancer prevention. Is there some more
a bunch of female tricks, don’t be too annoying, but your goal,
regular sex at least 2 times a week.

Now back to the story of our heroine
Irina

�”… The most difficult thing was to stop feeling sorry for yourself, to raise your own” Madame
I sit “from the couch and start acting. For two years I lost 10
kg, found a job. Relationship with her husband, very slowly, but improved.
It has been exactly two years since our contract, I decided to
ask, the daughter is leaving, me too with her, he replied that he wanted to
I stayed with him. I’m happy! Only nearly losing my husband, I
I realized how much I love him …

The relationship of her husband with his mistress gradually faded away. In the beginning
during pregnancy, they talked every day. After birth
child, she took a loan for an apartment, her husband began to move her
money to pay off the mortgage. Call each other less often than once
a week, then once a month. Now my husband transfers money every month,
they no longer communicate. I don’t know what happened between them, yes to me
this is not interesting … The main thing I am happy and loved !!! “

That’s probably all. Time heals, the main thing is not to give up and fight
for your happiness!

But you can and so …