Tue, Mar 25, 2014
Not so long ago you lived in peace and harmony and admired each other.
a friend. But time passes, and the man of your dreams changes to
unrecognizability: there are “stupid” habits, irritation,
dissatisfaction with life and many other claims. If it starts
occur in your life most likely you are faced with a three year old
crisis in family relationships.
The time frame for a three-year family crisis is quite wide:
according to sociologists, from two to five years. Some couples find in themselves
the forces to overcome this crisis, others cannot cope with
piled up problems, parted for a time or served on
divorce.
Why is there a crisis in family relationships?
Wedding – a solemn and important moment. Relatives and friends wish
you happy long life and ability to jointly overcome
the difficulties. You nod your head tiredly, thinking that your relationship is not
will touch the problem – because you really love a friend. But here
2-3 years pass and you realize with horror that instead of loving and
understanding husband, every day you are annoyed and
tired man Constant scandals, grievances and mutual
reproaches keep you apart. The situation does not save even
spontaneous sex. Why it happens?
- Супруги просто надоели друг другу. Romance and
enthusiasm was left behind, the couple “removed their rose-colored glasses” and
saw each other in a different light: with all the flaws,
strangeness and own attitude towards life. When “hormones
happiness “pass, funny and insignificant acts of the beloved
begin to annoy and annoy, and the desire to “tune” it under
itself, does not bring success.
- Угасание сексуального желания. Sexy over time
life of spouses becomes more fresh: for 3 years they are good
studied their “habits” in bed. Lack of time, fatigue,
lack of sexual experimentation does not cause desire to do
love There is a crisis of sexual relations, which
provokes scandals, quarrels and dissatisfaction with life.
- The appearance of the child. As a rule, the firstborn appears in
married couple after 2-3 years of living together. It’s happy
an event changes family life drastically. Sleepless nights,
constant cry of the baby and perpetual lack of sleep do not leave physical
opportunities for a woman to bestow a spouse with affection, attention and
tenderness, as in the “old days”. Caring for her husband goes to the second
plan. Many men do not want to understand the reduction of attention with
sides of the woman he loved and her frequent reproaches. Spouses are arguing
swear from unwillingness to understand each other.
How to overcome the crisis in the relationship?
Everyone knows that family relationships require constant work. But
for many, these are empty words and as soon as a crisis comes,
партнеры бегут подавать заявление на divorce. According to statistics about
40% of Russian marriages break up in the third year of marriage.
Many believe that the very fact of living with a loved one “in
one plane “- a great gift for him (her) – and do not want
put something into a relationship. To the question “How to overcome
three-year marriage crisis? “, psychologists confidently answer:” It is necessary
work on relationships. “
- Дама не должна превращаться в сварливую жену. It is impossible
constantly blame her husband for his shortcomings and strange habits.
Psychologists say: the true reason for discontent with a man is in
psychological dissatisfaction of women. Maybe you have
there were problems in the sexual life or the material sphere.
You need to talk them out loud with your spouse, and then a serious problem.
�“Get off the ground”, and constant discontent will go to
the side.
- Женщине следует открыто выражать свои желания. how
It is known that a man does not understand female hints. Reasoning about love
and the meaning of life can drive him to a dead end. Tell him straight that
it’s hard for you and he should help you: take out the garbage every night,
on weekends cooking dinner and things like that. Such rational
wishes better perceived by a man than abstract
claims accompanied by dissatisfaction.
- Relationships require updates. For any relationship
romance is required. This applies to 3, 5, 10, 20 years of joint
of life. Among the domestic troubles and life problems you need to find
time for tenderness and romance. Make your husband classic
a romantic dinner and a grumpy lady with a bunch of claims to turn into
to his beloved woman he had long dreamed of.
- A child is not a reason for divorce. If the family crisis
come after the birth of a child, you need to properly treat
situations. Remember that children will quickly grow up and “will fly away from
parent nest. The woman who managed to save the family
stay with her husband; if she chose to devote herself exclusively
child – most likely she will be alone. It is from a woman
depends on how life will be after the birth of a child – irritated and
усталой или наполненной взаимопониманием и love Spouse must
understand that the husband also gets tired at work, and therefore he needs at home
time for silence and loneliness. Do not neglect “services
grandmothers “: by opportunities leave your kids with loved ones
relatives to get out with her husband in a movie, theater and cafe.
A child is not a reason to forget about yourself and your beloved man.
A three-year family crisis is a natural phenomenon. But чтобы он
did not destroy the family hearth, spouses must learn to perceive
friends as they are and not be afraid to negotiate arising
Problems.
Text: Svetlana Ahi
