Husband loves another: how to endure unbearable? Canbe necessary to fight or just let your husband love another …

Ср, 28 окт 2015 Автор: Юлия Улиткина

Oh, our ancestors were wise!

From prison and prison do not promise, said wise people,
shaking his head. Translated into the usual Russian: it can happen
everything in the world, and not always, unfortunately, something depends on us. Here,
let’s say, happy Mendelson died down, even mournful Chopin
far away, and the family boat began to sink. And it’s not you who is to blame, but
husband is a traitor Well, how can you say this?

To this situation, you can go trampled along the path of family routine
scandals, endless showdowns, grudging,
unilateral veto on sex. At least understand why a man
is decided on the left march.

But it also happens that a loving spouse learns about the head of the family’s tricks
accidentally, begins to suspect something against the background of absolute external
well-being. Yesterday everything was fine: we went fishing (to
mother, for mushrooms, on the sea), returned, had dinner. And today like thunder
out of the clear sky: the husband loves another! Resentment, pain, anger, desire
smash everything into pieces, kill him, her, myself …

How could you? – I just want to shout into the vile face of a traitor.
Yes, what did you miss? And the final question, to myself: what
now do?

Contents

The husband loves another: the portrait of the traitor

It’s pretty easy to figure out the truth. If your life or yourself
a man has changed at least in some way, this is a reason to look at him
take a closer look and analyze the last weeks joint
of life. And the matter is not at all that he no longer gives flowers and
Carries on hand. Signs of treason must prove.

Will change:

• male behavior;

• attitude to the wife and family;

• work schedule;

• attitude to communication media;

• appearance.

Equal men do not exist. Having an affair on the side, one
begins to act rude, tough, defiant, openly demonstrating
discontent. He does not like everything, every little thing leads to the wild
irritation. A man does not shun open ridicule of his wife,
reproaches, mockery, including strangers and children.
The other, on the contrary, becomes too tender, gives unexpected
gifts and generally too diligently and waving a tail. AND
aggression and sugary care are different manifestations of feeling
guilt if the husband loves another.

If intimacy has ceased and it is not able to
health is a reason to look for the cause of the extinction of sexual
desires. Pay attention to the change and intimate
preferences. This may also be a subconscious attempt to see
wife lover.

To meet with his mistress, a man needs to carve himself
A piece of time from family life. Hence the notorious “delays
at meetings, sudden business trips, permanent overtime
Job. Lovers experiencing the peak of emotions, can not without
constant communication. Husband loves another and wants to be with her – from here
development of a strong dependence on the media.

The phone becomes inviolable, with it the man is literally
sense inseparable. Explaining to his wife why he needs a phone in the shower or
sorry, restroom, mean husband comes up with hundreds of compelling reasons.
He is hysterical or covered in cold sweat if his wife takes it.
handset. On the computer puts the password, change passwords in social networks
– The virtual life of the cheater is in full swing.

Changes and his appearance. Not only women, having got a lover,
lose weight and prettier. The wrong husbands do the same thing. Crumpled
shirts, stubble, strong men’s odors in an amazing way
replaces the neatness and the popular fragrance from Dior.

Remember Bridget Jones? Theory of Obsessive Mentions on the
really works. If the husband loves another, he is several times a day.
will remember her: a colleague, a friend of his wife, a neighbor. This is OU.
And the tone of the statements can be as admired (naive man
considers himself safe) and negative (he sweeps aside from
yourself suspicions).

A husband loves another: why does he live in a family?

Deceived wives often wonder: why he does not leave the family?
He torments himself, torments his wife. How to understand the logic of a husband who loves
another, but continues to live with his wife? The fact is that for most
Male divorce is unacceptable. The reasons may be different.

Общие дети. A traitorous man may be
loving father. He feels his responsibility, especially if
children are small, or afraid of their conviction, if they are already adults.
The image of an exemplary father is a great way to cover up your weakness,
fear.

Боязнь осуждения ближнего круга. In that
case a man is afraid of losing the respect and love of friends and
relatives who will certainly take the side deceived
wives.

Устроенный быт. Change your habits and
addictions man is not easy. Very convenient to get on the side
passion, and at home – ironed clean things, favorite food, comfortable
slippers. Changing something in your life is very difficult. Enough
remember how rarely a man leaves the family, even if for years
�”Loves another.” The novel for three can go on forever.

Потеря property. When a divorce will have to pay
half his wife property. If co-acquired a lot and a man
there is something to lose, he will hide the novel to the last.

Husband loves another: the rules of crisis behavior

How to act upon learning that a husband loves another? The easiest and
the wrong way is hysteria. Yes that’s a great way
throw out your despair, but what comes next? Screams and tears –
these are manifestations of weakness. But it is she who is now unacceptable. The first
rule of crisis: do not make sudden movements. Tears and
charges his wife either provoke a man to retaliate aggression, or
will give him the moral right to justify himself, pour his own guilt
on the shoulders of a vicious fury shouting insults.

Cry, scream out your grief, beat the pillow, in the end,
can be later. In the meantime, you need to keep a maximum of calm, no matter how
It was painful and offensive. Such a reaction will lead the husband to complete
bewilderment How so? Where does this calmness come from? Is my and I
family mean nothing to her? Or maybe she also has
lover?

Something like this will argue the average man. AND
This is a chance to save the family and your female happiness. In any
case, a decent way out of the situation.

What to do next is the question. Divorce? To drive
to “check feelings”? Pretend nothing happened?
Forgive and accept? Understand and regret? Step on the throat
own song or try to be happy out of spite and in spite of?
To answer these questions is simply impossible. Various
temperaments, level of culture, degree of attachment to a spouse,
number of years lived – many details affect the decision.

Every woman must first understand what she wants.
Do not think about children, cast away fear, move offense aside,
imagine a life without him – and honestly answer the question:
Do I want this person to stay with me? Will I
forgive him? Will I жить без него? Do I need a husband who
loves another?

Husband loves another: options for future events

Once the first blast of emotions is over, it’s time to decide how
to live on. There are actually three options for developing
events.

Вариант первый, радикальный. Pack a suitcase
put an infidel over the threshold, file a claim and cross out the scoundrel
из of life. Divorce and maiden name – this is the radical motto
script. You can cry friends, talk about that husband
loves another and you divorced, in social networks, read messages from
friends, listen to advice and words of support. Having your own, you can
re-go in search of love.

Вариант второй, оптимальный. He will understand his
mistake, break a relationship with a seductress, deeply repent and
fully return to the family. Removes all pages on the network, will
ignore the passionate calls of a mistress, understand what he almost
lost. Can быть, заново влюбится в жену. Can быть, она тоже
review family relationships and forgive everything. Can быть, они в
old age still smile at what had to go through, and stronger
join hands.

Вариант третий, идеальный. This script
can really afford only really close, strong and honest
people. He understands that he loves his new woman with real love,
but he also has feelings for his wife: gratitude, tenderness, respect.
She understands that her husband loves another and suffers that even staying
with her, he will be unhappy. She loves him so much she is ready
let go and turn from wife to girlfriend. They have common children,
so dad will take part in their upbringing maybe
solve any domestic issues, help with money and kind
by advice. This is an adult solution to a problem, capable of it.
лишь психологически зрелые people.

Husband loves another: how to change everything

If you don’t have a life without a spouse, you can try to return it.
on the true path. First of all, keep calm and
demonstrate friendliness. Women’s trick is a strong thing
a rare man can resist her. Here is what you need to do.

1. Полностью пересмотреть свое отношение к
мужу
, проанализировать его просьбы и desires. Amazing
but most often this is the root of all ills. Man loves
arranged life is no more than the usual affection and tenderness, which
looking on the side. Mistress generously gives him what his wife deprives:
gentle words (verbal stroking), gentle touch,
absolute support in everything, full acceptance. ANDнструкция для жены,
decided to return her husband, consists of the following items: immediately
include all your feminine charm; actively exhibit infinite
maternal tenderness; carefully examine all the interests of the husband, ideally
– share his hobby. About insults – forget!

2.•Отказаться от упреков. In that сокровенная
female wisdom. �”Who will remember the old – that eye out”: such
The principle is to adopt. Husband will be grateful for
delicacy, will appreciate the tact, will take active
adjust life to make amends. Glue the broken cup
unlikely to succeed, but start living in a new way, from scratch
worth trying. Actually, only this remains.

3.•Полностью отказаться от критики. Man
It is very important to feel not only strong, but also smart. Give
he has this sense of self-worth, show sincere respect
– and the result can exceed your wildest expectations.

4.•Срочно заняться собой: привести фигуру в
order, make a new hairstyle, update the wardrobe, change the comfortable
home clothes for a stylish and feminine, find a cute occupation outside
families, more often go out of the house to people, do yoga and
self-development. It is large enough, but necessary and if
honest, very pleasant way. Only by changing herself, woman
will be able to change the reality around you.

Seeing his wife beautiful, cheerful, purposeful, strong,
man can not remain indifferent. Remember: all men are
the owners. Can any one of them voluntarily refuse
from such an amazing woman who has suddenly become a wife?
No, of course, especially if you lived with her five – ten – twenty
years old! The first wife is from god.

Husband loves a friend: is it worth returning?

Другой вопрос в том, стоит ли мужчина того, чтобы
тратить на него свое время
. Of course, if there are children,
communication is inevitable. But only women decide what it will be. If a
there is even a drop of doubt that spoiled your faith in people
a man is not a man worth fighting for, you need to
regrets parting with him.

It is also important how the man relates to the situation. He must
understand yourself, your feelings and make a choice. Useless
try to get him back if he is always in his heart in someone else’s house. Give
him time, do not push, but limit the timing. Let it be determined
but not more than one and a half months. Needless to delay senseless
torment.

Yes, all this is very hard and hurts for self-esteem. Yes,
it will take a long time to restore faith in yourself and maybe learn
re live and love. But letting go of a husband who loves another and
will never be the same, necessary. ANDначе жизнь превратится
in hell.

Time will pass, everything will settle down. New forces will come, new people,
new love. You just need to wait a bit. And to live was
easier, you need to engage yourself in vigorous activity. Enjoy success
children, help girlfriends, find something for everyone. And still execute
all the recommendations of the last paragraph of the previous chapter.

Do the most important person in your life –
by myself.

AND помнить, что мудрые наши предки говорили: все что ни делается
– always for the better.

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