Tue, 08 Nov 2016
Мы, women, обречены на контакт с мужчинами. These aliens from
the world of ambition, incomprehensible passions and strong words sometimes
difficult to understand. What to do with them at the first meeting? How to handle
in everyday life? What “hook” so that the chosen one of your heart
not frightened and did not run away, and, choosing us among hundreds of women, again
and returned to us again, and, in the end, could not imagine life without
us?
Let us tell you a secret: men are not at all aliens from other planets,
and we have much more similarities with them than differences. And this
means that they, like us, prefer to communicate, do not like
isolation and loneliness, and quietly hate “family wars.” BUT
more, they want to love.
BUT чтобы понять их еще лучше, предлагаем погрузиться в мир
interests of the man and present what he likes, what he wants
and what needs. Do not rush to discard interests and habits.
men only because you are a woman. To be well versed in
men who meet on the path of life need to be enough
self-confident.
BUT то, что мужчины любят уверенных в себе женщин, далеко не
secret.
Кто они — women, уверенные в себе?
Take a look around – you will see many women who are not
beautiful, not so young and smart, but are popular with those men
of which you only dream. Такие women знают о мужчинах много,
but they know something about themselves. BUT именно то, что брать в отношениях
no less important than giving. And no matter what coefficient
mental development you own, manage office or know how
prepare several dishes in just one hour.
Self-esteem is what helps a woman
weather the storm to cultivate their field when they come
calm times And she gets a decent reward because
successfully controls their behavior. Indeed, men
нравятся women, которые нравятся себе. BUT такие women никогда не
go to close contact with a man, not enough to recognize him. And not
entrust their soul to the first comer. Evaluate men need, so
same as they evaluate us, and, entering into a relationship, ask yourself
the question is “What am I carrying on the altar of relationships and what do I count on
in return?
Self-esteem should always be with you
from the very first minutes of communication, at the very first meeting with
a man
Something about telephone conversations – the handset does not have
faces
We know how important it is to be able to listen to what a man says. But
just not at the beginning of dating! That is why you should not bet
at the first telephone conversation. It doesn’t really matter what he says when
acquaintance, the main thing is how he views you as far as
his opinion is expressive, what information he tries to convey with
using gestures. Of course, it can be very nice to chat
the phone with broken clocks, feel the “soul kinship”, and fantasize
about future meetings.
But телефонная трубка — плохой союзник, она может помочь обрести
�“Intimacy without intimacy”, so that when you meet you will be ashamed and
unbearably boring when you find that your partner is quite
far from the image that you have compiled. No, we do not
agitate you completely abandon the phone, but remember –
�”Telephone chemistry” does not work in real communication, because
the eyes see the truth, while the ear only hears a lie.
Self-confident people do not try to charm the interlocutor by
phone, and especially not in a hurry to get involved in a man whom
never seen. BUT если кто-то пытается залезть к вам в душу и
to sow the feeling of guilt, that you “do not open up deeper”, do not
go on about. Otherwise, you can later regret the lost
minutes, just like watching an uninteresting movie with a beautiful
decorated poster. And yes, never give a man a number
phone if he does not give his!
The novel does not read from the hundredth page, the relationship does not start with
the middle
It’s hard to imagine a spaceship that first
lands and then flies. Yes, and the ladder has consistent
steps, which need to gradually climb to the next floor.
Why in the relationship should act differently?
The acquaintance invigorates and scares at the same time, confuses thoughts and
kindles feelings. But все же, даже если ваш возраст «поджимает», и
you sleep and see yourself surrounded by a couple of babies, you need to clearly
understand – any relationship is formed in stages. And require
ongoing development efforts.
And this значит, что в процессе общения не просто дайте возможность
partner know you better, but do not make your own cavalry
swoops. Of course, we all want ease in relationships, but without
labor they are simply impossible and can collapse from simple
blows of breeze, if not have a solid foundation. it
The same goes for the moments when we are too critical of
his new chosen one. Hard look, eyebrows shifted, we
keep a close eye on his behavior. Awkward gesture wrong
interpreted word and as a result of a promising meeting –
a story without continuation.
Do not rush to cut the sword! Do not make a complete opinion and not
label the person after the first date. Think more about
opportunities, and not the end result, enlist
male friendship and do not forget about seduction. And who knows
maybe maybe …
Do not ask too many questions at the first meeting
A meticulous woman who “crawls in all holes” can scare
a man If you ask a lot of questions to your counterpart, sometimes
not listening to the answer, the interlocutor feels like
interrogation At the first meeting it is better to focus on sensations.
�”Here and now”, and do not try to dig deep into the soul. The list of topics
for conversation can be quite diverse – ranging from
the city in which you are located, your favorite pastime,
stories about a hobby, a recent book.
But главное — никаких лихорадочных поисков тем, и тем более
reproaches and exhibited requirements. And certainly not worth it
lay out all my secrets on the first date and demand
interlocutor of the same. Enjoy the meeting, just try.
have a good time. Men do not like women who turn
a date in the likeness of a cut chicken lying in a saucepan.
If you are ready for anything today, put a cross on tomorrow
bottom
Некоторые women очень охотно откликаются на ухаживание
men Sometimes they do not even realize whether they are worthy of
chosen attention. Внутри такой women как будто включается
hormonal counter, counting down time for a quick surrender.
But мужчина не ценит то, что достается ему легким путем, такая
victory will cool him and neutralize interest.
The exercise of restraint is very necessary, first of all, to us,
women, so that a man’s feeling can grow,
fueled by interest, excitement and pleasant emotions in communication.
A man should have time to think about what place to take
specific woman in her life.
That is why you should not hurry, trying to tidy up the little man to
hands And not стоит доставать его денно и нощно своими звонками — по
At least it’s not even your psychiatrist! He is still a counter
the ship that fell on your horizon. Do not try to reach
swim to it, leave time to overcome the distance to
ships could follow their course. Explore the hidden
the depths until you become convinced that you are a couple,
based on mutual feelings and don’t try to rush
attack – it will be interpreted not in your favor.
Don’t be afraid to say no when it’s about sex
Attraction to the opposite sex is inherent in nature, but
when it comes to sexual intimacy, especially when
affected by emotions, the decision to enter into this intimacy must be
consciously. Early sex can change your relationship,
and not for the better. it вовсе не значит, что секс для вас
will become a taboo for moral reasons. Also today we know a lot
ways to make sex safer but if you can’t even
free to talk about it with a man, at least for now,
nothing can happen.
If you are thinking about a barely familiar man, when you have not yet
decide how serious you are about him and how deep
ready to plunge into relationships – we offer you only
be guided by common sense. BUT чтобы мужчина оценил ваше
�“No” in dignity, you need to be able to express it in such a way that
it was completely different from “Never!”. For example, “It’s not time yet”
or “I’m not ready yet.” The man you like will be you
only grateful for your balance.
By the way, many men do not accept sexual pressure, and
гораздо большей степени, чем думают об этом women. Superfluous
desire for sex turns away “good” guys and attracts
�”Bad.”
And most importantly – the refusal of sexual intimacy does not need
explanation.
Not every pair makes a good duet.
Let’s say you ran into a sexual athlete, retired and
fearing the emotional intimacy of a man, or a player
self-affirmation. Try to establish contact with those who do not need it.
– It’s like talking to a stone idol. Best case scenario,
it is inexpressibly boring, at worst it can also be dangerous. Not worth it
look at the clock to say goodbye.
If the guy “lost your phone” and did not attempt it
�“Find” if he is so busy that he can only give you 1
day a month if the man you dreamed of handing your life
for a long time, turned out to be rude and petty – rejoice! You
there is a chance to get rid of him now, so as not to hang out for many years
in the same boat. Уверенные women рассматривают разрыв как его
loss, as a result of which he will not receive your tenderness, beauty,
uniqueness. BUT новый мужчина, который встретится на вашем пути,
Be sure to appreciate the fact that you are not ready to sacrifice yourself to someone
whatever it is.
(based on bestseller Steven Carter and Julia
Falcon)
