Mon, Feb 24, 2014
Marriages are happy and unhappy, early and late,
student and royal, international, unequal,
bogus … But there is another measure applied to
freshly baked cells of society – love and calculation. Someone fighting
for marriages in heaven, with distrust refers to too
mercantile persons suitable for creating a family with a notebook and
calculator. Others grin condescendingly, predicting
couples in love with quick cooling of feelings and divorce. Opinions may and
change, but the statistics is implacable – both can break up
family. Today we will talk about why marriage can be doomed
by calculation”.
Everyone has the right to make a mistake, but sometimes the wrong calculation
becomes fatal. Some women decide to marry for convenience,
when it comes to understanding that the clock hands cannot be stopped, but
the horse with the prince was clearly lost in the road. Desperate wait for mutual
love, the potential bride begins to prepare a decisive
march, stepping on the throat of their own preferences, habits
and even taste. The calculation here is usually equated with the absence of love
and even sympathy. Giving appreciation to a candidate with high income
and with a burning desire to start a family, girls close their eyes to his
habits, character, physiology, without thinking that rejection
some traits can be a fatal mistake.
Errors in calculations – psychology
Character
�”For money, you can forgive a lot” – a slogan that allows you to safely
step into the unknown to calculating girls. By betting on
An impressive bank account or a substantial salary, and you can close
eyes are not some of the features of a character. Sounds logical? And what
if the main feature of this very character is greed and
stinginess? Or at least just a burgher desire to save? AND
then it only remains to bite your elbows, watching as a modest engineer
zadarivaet your soul mate with gifts, but they demand from you daily
reporting on farm expenses.
Habits
Habits — милые, необычные, раздражающие, невыносимые — эта та
part of the dowry, which is almost impossible to check before
life together. Love and passion make you look at
some unpleasant eccentricities in the softened light of rose-colored glasses, and
by the time the passions calm down, especially unpleasant habits
will be either eradicated or legitimized. In a marriage of convenience
the trial period will not, and the newlywed at risk of becoming bogged down in
stream of established traditions and rituals of the spouse from the first days
life together.
Principles
In his youth, it seems that the difference in beliefs can not be
a barrier to friendship. But over the years, differences in life credo
able to embroil his comrades and make life with a partner just
unbearable. AND если чувства не объединяют, а цели — разнятся, то в
Soon the future, the tracks may break up.
Errors in calculations – physiology
Appearance
�”Do not drink water from the face” – this proverb comforted the sobbing girls
on the issue of mother and matchmaker. Take it into service in our days. But
physical unattractiveness in the absence of love plays with wives
evil joke. After all, disadvantages polished with deep feeling have
properties become favorite and touching features. AT
our beloved ones are sweet and bulging teeth, and glasses with thick
lenses and lop-eared. But a cold heart will very quickly turn
beer belly or naked bald husband in the present
deformity, giving rise to a feeling of disgust and disgust.
Smell
Our sense of smell can work wonders — we remember smells, and
random fragrance can instantly carry us into the forgotten past,
cool turn the mood arrow and make the blood run
faster. ANDзвестно, что собственным уникальным «ароматом» обладает и
everyone. AND дело тут вовсе не в том, что кто-то забывает
take a morning shower, use deodorant, suffer
excessive sweating of the feet or not quite a while at the dentist. With
life together, no perfume is able to drown out the real
natural smell to which the rest will remain insensitive
people, but for spouses, it can be a constant irritant.
Our body is able to recognize signals from the opposite sex, and
which seems unpleasant and repulsive, actually shouts to us:
�”This guy is not from our anthill!”
Is it possible to ignore these bright signals from the very beginning
warning us about the failure of the “calculated” union? Probably,
no – otherwise the payment for the calculation can repeatedly exceed all
planned benefits and benefits of such a marriage.
Текст: ATера Гюлер
