Beats – it means love? What does family mean?violence, can an aggressor be corrected and should he be tolerated

Пт, 13 апр 2018 Автор: Инна
Kulko-Labyntseva

Today the number of divorces in many countries of the world
significantly exceeds the number of marriages. One of
the main causes of divorce becomes violence in
family.

Beats – it means love? Understand this issue.

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Beats – it means love? Stereotype from the past

Our grandmothers also said that it’s not possible to endure
worth it. Do not tell anyone that in your home
quarrels happen, bickering that someone is unhappy with something. In the past
times a man really took the place of the head of the family and answered
for her future.

Today, such a thing as “happy marriage” has become practically
an impossible task for many. One of причин этого является
violence в family. We will not go into the sad statistics, better
let’s figure out how to deal with the problem and is it worth it?

He beats, then he loves – this is the catch phrase of past generations.
Which scared, and said that in marriage everything is possible. But
today the world has changed and each partner has the right to choose
your own future. Why knead it on violence and
fear.

Beats-means love, or the syndrome of the victim?

Today you can hear from all sides how women complain about
that men have ceased to perform their primary function of bearer and
защитника в family. They have shifted more and more responsibilities to
fragile shoulders of women. At the same time, many who complain are not
break off relationships. They are used to suffering in relationships and complaining
for life.

Such a comfort zone, from which to get out is quite difficult.
Over time, this lifestyle creates a syndrome for a woman.
victims, and she herself becomes the catalyst for aggressive
male behavior. Why is this happening:

• A woman is not satisfied without suffering;

• It thus attracts the attention of outsiders.
people who pity her;

• She thus attracts the attention of a man;

• It provokes aggression by a man because
stable desire to break off relationships.

Of course, not every quarrel ends in violence. But, даже
a small push in the back, a slap in the face is already violence. With time
a woman adapts to this situation and demands more and more
more attention. She delves into suffering and begins to adore
his tyrant. Provoking a man, thereby, even more
violence.

Beats – it means love? Altered states and familial
violence

Часто семейное violence случается в тех семьях, в которых супруги
allow themselves to drink, use other stimulating substances.
Семейное violence в нетрезвом состоянии несёт в себе самые тяжёлые
implications for spouses. Starting from severe bodily injury,
ending with a fatal outcome.

If the partner has repeatedly allowed himself to raise his hand to
beloved, then in an altered state he will do it
mechanically, out of habit. The catalyst for such a reaction may be
any harsh word from a woman to a man, any of her not
peculiar act. Predict the behavior of a person who is
under the influence of alcohol is very difficult.

Парам, у которых происходило violence в таком состоянии
strongly recommend prioritizing. Define for
both partners, which is more important. Drinking, entertainment, or
joint life without violence?

It happens that a partner justifies his behavior in every way,
does not recognize his direct guilt and does not want to change anything in himself. AT
In this case, a woman should reconsider the format of relations with
partner and protect yourself from battering.

Beats – it means love? Children suffer from family violence.

Psychologists say that the fear of loneliness does not allow
families in which the fact of violence occurred to sever the relationship. Fear
lose such a strong and familiar alliance. And it doesn’t matter if he brings
both happiness The main thing – it exists.

According to statistics, the fact of the occurrence of marital
violence does not affect the age of the relationship. Violence can also occur in
newly created relationships, and in perennial alliances.

Unfortunately, more and more often directly or indirectly from family
children suffer violence. They are the victims of tyrant fathers,
who spill the remnants of anger on children. Often teenagers
intercede for their mother and fall victim to heavy beatings. AT
In such cases, the priority is to preserve life and health.
child in the first place. And if a man does not understand this –
there is a need to end such a relationship.

Beats – it means love? Get rid of the relationship? Or from
violence?

The reasons why conflicts arise in families with
violence can be divided into several groups:

• Household;

• ATнешние объективные;

• ATнешние субъективные;

• provoked by mental disorders;

• Provoked by the woman herself.

To household include the complexity of the financial plan, which is not
divides the woman. Constant requests for assistance in domestic matters,
which, according to men, are unfounded. Surely
household conflict is not always turns into an act of violence against a woman.
But наиболее часто случается именно так.

Unstable psyche of the man, his low self-esteem –
провоцируют его на violence. ATнешние объективные факторы — это
factors that can trigger neurosis or depression
men These can be problems with work, finances, communication with
people. And if a woman does not share these problems with a man –
possible family conflict, which will soon develop into an act
of violence.

ATнешние субъективные факторы — это зачастую сплетни и доносы
others who provoke a man to distrust and jealousy.
Jealousy can provoke a woman herself, flirting with others
men, spending time in their company.

Psychologists advise to address this problem.
complex:

• Understand the causes of conflicts in the pair;

• ATыделить и ликвидировать страхи и фобии партнёров;

• Use a variety of psychological settlement practices.
conflicts;

• AT сложных случаях — рекомендуют партнёру пройти курс
psychological treatment or rehabilitation.

Beats – it means love? Healthy relationships are possible without
violence – remember this!

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