Thu, Jun 12, 2014
Divorces in the modern world are commonplace. And yet,
many relate to the breakup of marriage very painfully, bear
memories and resentment of a failed relationship in later life.
How many stupid myths about divorce live in the head of ordinary
women! How much they interfere with a happy life, creating illusory
obstacles to building a harmonious relationship with a new satellite
of life. Let’s look at the ten most popular misconceptions about
divorce, widely found in modern society.
1. Marriages after a divorce are more stable.
It is believed that those who have already learned the bitter experience of marriage, do not
will make stupid mistakes, so people walking down the aisle during
the second, third, nth time enjoying a stronger relationship.
Such a thought is rarely true, the person intuitively searches
chosen, similar to the previous partner, so all
negative character traits are usually repeated in the new partner.
We must not seek a replacement for the previous spouse, and get rid of
type.
2. Marriage is beneficial from loneliness
It often happens that marriage is necessary only after
to get rid of loneliness. Course for
it is very important for a person to feel loved and needed, but the conclusion
marriage of despair will not lead to anything good.
3. Civil marriage before formalizing the relationship is useful for
spouses
Such a myth is often cherished by many women and some men,
Considering that having lived a little together in advance, you can count
for a strong family in the future. But, as a rule, this path is rare
leads to formalizing the relationship.
4. A wife is always financially dependent on her husband.
Such a conclusion is fundamentally wrong. In recent years, increasingly
There is a trend when women earn more than men.
Living alone, a woman can live with a modest salary, and
after marriage, most of the capital is literally eaten.
Therefore, wages are not a measure of dependence, except
case, perhaps, with housewives.
5. Having a baby can save a marriage
This myth has persisted for many years, and because of its blind faith in
many of his children were born without fathers. If the marriage gave
crack, the birth of a child will not bring anything good to any of her
member, especially baby.
6. Actively clarifying relationships will inevitably lead to a break.
If scandals arise constantly and come down to discontent
spouse each other, then the probability of divorce is great. However often
clarification of the circumstances is just necessary for couples to remove
tension and do not hide insults.
7. Do not save marriage for the sake of children.
Кроме редких случаев, когда один из spouses способен нанести
physical or moral harm to the child, the preservation of marriage is always
positive effect on the psyche of children. Having a full-fledged family
especially important for children who do not always understand the reasons
parental gaps and relate to this process extremely
negatively.
8. Most often, the husband leaves the family
Emancipation reached before and before marriage, therefore many wives,
starting to experience a family relationship without fear of anything,
leave from her husband. Often, material wealth becomes
incentive to such actions. Sometimes wives leave their husbands, leaving them
in the care of children.
9. For a strong relationship is to marry in adulthood.
Naturally, experience comes with years, but in relationships it’s important
not so much experience as love and human qualities,
features of character. More mature people have difficulty adjusting.
under the partners, so their relationship flow with big problems
in the stage of “adjustment”.
10. Most of the divorces occur in the first three years of marital
of life
This statistic has no basis. First
годы весьма сложны для spouses, но чаще всего разводятся люди,
living together for more than 5 years. The reason is that years later the fuse
for attempts at preserving the family is already lost, and it becomes clear that
relationship comes to an end. According to reports, the least
divorced couples living together for less than a year, as well as those who have lived
married more than 20 years.
